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Kink and purity culture are just two sides of the same coin; the whole coin is misogynist.

There seems to be a lot this of thinking on r/sexworkers. They keep flipping the misogyny coin back and forth instead of just tossing it and walking away from these garbage men who make their lives hell.

Here’s another post where OP thinks her only options in life are to be a prostitute (which she admitted she already wanted to stop doing years ago) or a “sad, depressed, and unappreciated housewife” whose husband cheats on her (she married a man who had zero respect for her and cheated on her with prostitutes).

So I literally took on the wife role. Cooked, clean, watched after the kids. I even gave up my legit business for ‘us’ because he kept telling me I was just ‘wasting my time’. He even expressed how he didn’t want me to get a ‘real job’.

I really feel like the biggest mistake was being monogamous. And now I experienced it from the ‘wife’ side of the coin. A LOT of our clients wives aren’t even happy. They are literally taken advantage of, and left unattended to while their husbands fool around. On top of that, know the life style, a lot of these men are soooo willing to have unprotected sex with random people, there’s definitely no respect when it comes to the ‘wife’ role.

Another woman says she got stuck married to a porn addict. She wants a divorce because of that, but will go back to prostitution because no man will respect her in a marriage and “this is secretly what men like.”

They are so close to getting it, or they DO get it but it’s too painful to acknowledge.

Edit: OOP apparently posted on FDS against the promotion of sex work and talked about the reality of dealing with sadistic johns. I hope she can heal and avoid having to ever deal with these awful men again.

Why on earth these women who have lost all hope for men aren't SPINSTERS, I can't understand.

I've been trying to explain this to my libfems friends and how both sides of the coin are for the benefit of men. I'm hoping it starts sinking in soon.