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Just a random thought. Submissive and Masochist just mean you're a people pleaser. Definition- People-pleasers are known for doing whatever it takes to make other people happy. In other words majority of these subs are just doing to make their abuser I mean dom partner happy. You're not really turned on by the abuse you think you do because your partner is. People pleaser have trouble defending and advocating themselves because they care way more about what other people happiness hence in turn making the susceptible to abuse. This type of behavior could be symptom of a mentally illness/condition like anxiety, depression and BPD which are very common alongside other mental illness are very common in the kink community. I had people pleasing tendencies myself that actually bothered me on the inside but I only did to satisfy others as well so I was able to make to that of proclaimed subs. That's all

Just a random thought. Submissive and Masochist just mean you're a people pleaser. Definition- People-pleasers are known for doing whatever it takes to make other people happy. In other words majority of these subs are just doing to make their ~~abuser~~ I mean dom partner happy. You're not really turned on by the abuse you think you do because your partner is. People pleaser have trouble defending and advocating themselves because they care way more about what other people happiness hence in turn making the susceptible to abuse. This type of behavior could be symptom of a mentally illness/condition like anxiety, depression and BPD which are very common alongside other mental illness are very common in the kink community. I had people pleasing tendencies myself that actually bothered me on the inside but I only did to satisfy others as well so I was able to make to that of proclaimed subs. That's all

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I disagree. I was definitely turned on by my submission and enjoyed it during sexual activities. It wasn't just, "This is what my dom wants and I'll do it to make him happy."

That's why BDSM and kink can be hard to stop engaging in. It does feel enjoyable and good, like many things that aren't healthy for you.