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My teacher brought it up in psych class. I'm genuinely concerned I tried looking it because I'm highly concerned. Are there other factors. Someone explain and help

My teacher brought it up in psych class. I'm genuinely concerned I tried looking it because I'm highly concerned. Are there other factors. Someone explain and help

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I can understand women in the 70s and 80s were raised in a different time, but why would young women now still feel guilty about having sex? It's widely considered normal to have sex outside of marriage, except in more conservative churches. In fact, it's gone so far in the other direction that an adult female virgin is considered weird and abnormal by mainstream society. Are there more recent studies showing that large numbers of younger women still have these types of fantasies, or are they all relying on old data?

[–] Lilith 22 points Edited

The other explanation behind fantasies involving force is the widespread sexual trauma in women. if you have been raped or if you've watched forceful porn or even seen content like Game of Thrones which was basically rape porn,, you can develop such a strong fear association with sex it becomes hard to imagine consensual sex.

20% of women have been raped in the US and 81% have been sexually harassed. 88% of porn contain acts of aggression and women are watching more porn. 33% of women watch porn today. All of these influences can reshape a woman's relationship with sex, distorting it towards true self-destructive urges.

This especially rings true when you factor in epigenetics and the theory of the trauma can be passed down through genes

I agree porn is to blame for some of it. But unfortunately women were writing rape fantasies long before porn was mainstream.

I've never been raped, but I don't see why it would be hard to imagine consensual sex. It's still the standard in mainstream media. The average romantic comedy doesn't feature a rapist in the lead role.

Not hard to imagine it, hard to experience the same feelings of trust and love that make consensual sex passionate and fulfilling. What we get off to has everything to do with our emotional experience of sex, and things like PTSD or subclinical fears of rape can make it harder to summon the opposite emotions, or memories of them. Or for some especially if this kind of thing was set in early in life as their first experience of sex, there may be no memory of those positive emotions to help them shift out of a fear-based experience of sex.