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My teacher brought it up in psych class. I'm genuinely concerned I tried looking it because I'm highly concerned. Are there other factors. Someone explain and help

My teacher brought it up in psych class. I'm genuinely concerned I tried looking it because I'm highly concerned. Are there other factors. Someone explain and help

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seeing as how over 50% of us have been victims of sa, I highly doubt it.

repetition compulsion in trauma comes up a lot for rape victims, to the point where predators flock to forums for SA victims and encourage them to engage in rape kinks.

that's so disheartening.

It is. I want people to be aware and informed about the predators targeting rape victims though. Getting out of DV or rape is not the time to be entertaining any male's interests. It's the time to batten down the house, preemptively block private messaging, etc.

It can be a (maladaptive) coping mechanism. What people say to defend CNC kink definitely is true… but it doesn’t mean it’s mentally healthy or okay for it to be acted out (like why is the man okay with playing it out?). Identifying with it as a kink makes it less likely the person will get therapy to address the source trauma or issue that it’s stemming from.

[–] Julie92845 11 points Edited

Those aren't mutually exclusive. I've had rape fantasies (and used to be into BDSM) but also have been sexually assaulted. A fantasy is an entirely different experience from the real thing, even if it's still unhealthy.