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My teacher brought it up in psych class. I'm genuinely concerned I tried looking it because I'm highly concerned. Are there other factors. Someone explain and help

My teacher brought it up in psych class. I'm genuinely concerned I tried looking it because I'm highly concerned. Are there other factors. Someone explain and help

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I think it more has to do with the comment you made sounding judgemental towards women who struggle with this. For a lot (probably most) of them these fantasies stem from some kind of trauma. You can recognize the fantasy isn’t mentally healthy and shouldn’t be acted out and that you need trauma to deal with the source of it, but still struggle with having the fantasy. I don’t think the women with this fantasy (who are fantasizing about being raped) are actually thinking rape is okay, they’re traumatized. The real issue lies in the normalization of enacting the fantasy rather than treating it as what it is - a manifestation of trauma.

I think a lot of MEN use this statistic to mean “rape is okay.” Rape is never okay. Even if somehow it was possible for a woman to “want” rape (by definition it is not) and a woman DID, rape is still not okay. It is never okay and the men are the problem. Not the women.