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I have autism and yes I do need sex to be the way this person describes. I need to know what is going to happen in advance and I need my partner to tell me exactly what they want from me. But that doesn't have anything to do with bdsm. You can have clear communication without hurting or degrading anyone

THIS!

Autistic here, too. This also angers me because autistic people do seem to be overrepresented in BDSM (I mean, trans people are overrepresented in BDSM, too, and we’ve seen the correlation between autism and the gender cult).

People who make kink their whole personality love to normalize harming vulnerable people all around. Then if you call them out they flip it around and accuse you of saying autistic people can’t give consent or something.

Then if you call them out they flip it around and accuse you of saying autistic people can’t give consent or something

Exactly. Even just acknowledging that autistic people are more vulnerable to manipulation gets you called ableist nowadays. Its awful

I've autistic people on forums talking about the appeal of BDSM. It's interesting but sad at the same time. It's just a maladaptive coping mechanism. But it's also a maladaptive coping mechanism for everyone else, not just autists.

People who make kink their whole personality love to normalize harming vulnerable people all around. Then if you call them out they flip it around and accuse you of saying autistic people can’t give consent or something.

I have friends who sadly fell into the poly/BDSM cult. They will crow about how great this shit is for abuse survivors, autistic people, queer people, women, etc. But, if you point out that its creepy to suck marginilized and/or vulnerable people into such a violent subculture, they accuse you of infantilizing those groups and assuming they're too stupid to consent to sex or make their own decisions

Exactly, why can't you have open communication and talk to each other and tell each other you're valued without beating and hurting each other?

It makes me sad bc it kinda means that these ppl have never had healthy sexual partners

Right like wtf does this have to do with being punched during sex???

I’m autistic and agree fully. I had an ex manipulate me into BDSM when I was much younger, insisting the whole time that it was consensual and something I liked when that wasn’t the case at all. Because I was out of touch with my body and my sexuality I kind of just took it for granted that he knew what he was talking about and I just had to go harder until something felt good. :(

That's horrible. I'm sorry that happened to you :(

The amount of autistic girls who have been groomed or manipulated into sex acts they didn't want is honestly nauseating. It's disgusting to take advantage of someone's disability like that

And you can come to know your own worth without having to have sex with someone. Not you, but generally. What if we reified everyone’s value without having to take something from them first

I think having discussions about boundaries and whatnot before sex is a good practice for everyone

This is just consent & communication. It shouldn’t be special. These generations are just pathologizing everything

Yeah. They're seriously acting like these BDSM weirdos are the ONLY people who have a conversation before or after sex. That shit should be normal for EVERYONE

Why can't they have a pre-sex discussion and reassure their partners without the violence!? Do they think us "vanilla normies" just leap into bed and start missionary humping without any talking before or after?? 🤣