I'm here asking for resources about the harms of anal sex. I had read somewhere (can't be sure where I read it), that there has been an increase in young women coming to the hospital for damage to their anus from engaging in anal sex.
I know, first hand, how damaging to the mind body and soul anal sex can be. My ex had me engage in it regularly, without any lube or foreplay. I was basically his sex toy for awhile and the memories of the anal "play" we did makes me shudder. I used to think that anal could be enjoyable but I really feel like that was a lie sold to me by the porn industry and Cosmopolitan.
Today, I saw a post from a influencer who works with women and their sexuality, with the message that there is a reason we call some people "tight asses" and that "anal play" could be the remedy you need for "loosening up". I am horrified that she is sending this message to her followers, as a lot of them are women who come to her to help them heal from sexual trauma etc.
I am planning on writing something to send to her, I know she may not read it but it doesn't sit right with me. It was going to be something about how the biological function of the anus is to be "tight" so shit doesn't fall out our ass, the porn industry, men's twisted fantasies etc.
I am hoping some of you could help me find good resources that explain the harms of anal sex. I am specifically looking for the information of the increase of young women and hospital visits for anal fissures and the like. Thank you so much in advance!