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basically what the title says. i guess this is more suitable for desisters but does anyone feel this way? not just with medically transitioned passing TIFs, just men in general. i feel like i shouldn't feel this way but i can't help it sometimes.

basically what the title says. i guess this is more suitable for desisters but does anyone feel this way? not just with medically transitioned passing TIFs, just men in general. i feel like i shouldn't feel this way but i can't help it sometimes.

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[–] goneharolding 9 points Edited

For me it’s the tall, gorgeous girl I know I’ll never be. I’ve come to terms with being short and hippy, but it seemed to be way harder than it should have been.

My personality was always the butch part, and I used to fantasize about my ideal male body, which was more rockstar slim than the muscle-bound look I see a lot of TIFs go for. Seeing them pangs my heart, bc they will never know the joy of seeing their organic self and feeling love. The journey to wholeness is long for some of us, but those women have hidden themselves in a comfortable fiction. They will never find out who they really are, and it’s epically sad.

You will get there. When the old feelings well up, take a few deep breaths and remind yourself they don’t mean anything. Which wolf wins depends on which one you feed. 💜