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Hey, I have been struggling with what I'm pretty sure is gender dysphoria since puberty but I don't really know how to deal with it, because I don't want to transition but where I live it's considered conversion therapy and is illegal to not affirm these thoughts, so I'm concerned that if I bring it up to my therapist I'll be encouraged to buy into these thoughts and feelings and ultimately to transition. So if you know of anything that helped you to cope with or overcome gender dysphoria, please tell me about it

Hey, I have been struggling with what I'm pretty sure is gender dysphoria since puberty but I don't really know how to deal with it, because I don't want to transition but where I live it's considered conversion therapy and is illegal to not affirm these thoughts, so I'm concerned that if I bring it up to my therapist I'll be encouraged to buy into these thoughts and feelings and ultimately to transition. So if you know of anything that helped you to cope with or overcome gender dysphoria, please tell me about it

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[–] exftm 2 points Edited

I've been there so I know what it's like. The most important things for me were 1) giving it time and 2) not thinking about it. I spent a long time not going out much during which my dysphoria completely resolved because I wasn't under the scrutiny of other people. I do think this is far from the best option, though, so I think you should talk to a therapist instead. I'm just bringing this up so you know what worked for me, and that it is possible to get rid of it completely, even without therapy. I actually think gender dysphoria is the normal reaction of women to a world that is prejudiced against us.

I'm not that clear on what kind of gender dysphoria you're experiencing from your post, so I can't give much more advice. Understanding that being female means little more than just being born a female, is helpful to remind yourself. You don't need to prove anything to be a woman, you don't have to like certain things to be a woman, you don't have to be comfortable with femininity, or your body to be a woman, and you don't have to look or act in a certain way to be a woman.

I would advise you do bring it up with your therapist but contextualise it not as "gender dysphoria" but instead as discomfort with your body. Explain it without referring specifically to the gendered element, if you can. If the therapist tries to mention gender dysphoria, tell her you have absolutely no desire to transition. You are allowed to tell a psychologist how you want them to treat you. Only a bad therapist will hear that and decide to just keep treating you in a way that you don't want.

Additionally, you could try calling or emailing your therapist (from an email without your name, for anonimity) before talking to ask her if she would push you into transition if you brought up gender dysphoria.