I don't like the term "toxic masculinity" either. It implies that there is such a thing as non-toxic masculinity, but the truth is that all gender is toxic, both feminity and masculinity. As long as we keep deviding behaviors and characteristics into "masculine" and "feminine" - and I am not talking biology here, but articifial cultural markers that change over time - we have a toxic stew in which men and women can never truly know each other.

When masculinity is defined as not-what-femininity-is and vice versa, we are in trouble. All people share that 'human being and individual' part, which is really downplayed currently, partly, because both the far right and the far left now support the ideas of femininity and masculinity as innate things.