This might be the wrong circle so let me know. It wasn’t clear to me if this fit here but it seems to.
I’m not a huge gamer but sometimes I play. I’ve noticed that in co-op games sometimes people I play with ignore my questions or comments. Sometimes these are vital pieces of information that are time-sensitive to the game. I will warn someone: “Hey, watch out for that!” Then a few seconds later they will say “Hey look at [same thing]” as if I didn’t talk.
They also can be extremely dismissive and say things like “huh?” or “I don’t know” when they definitely do know or definitely did hear what I said and understand the question. I’ve done my own research on basic game mechanics, but some things require experience to understand that I don’t have. It’s not like I’m being lazy. Also since these are co-op games you’d think they’d want me to be able to function as well as they do and share knowledge. With other groups I have not found this to be an issue.
By the way, I don’t ask questions during high-stakes fast-paced periods of gameplay. Just during downtime when we are literally SUPPOSED to be collaborating and speaking.
I’ve had some people claim they “can’t hear me” but when I have a nice mic, all my volumes turned up, and this isn’t an issue when they’re asking ME something, I suspect that may be an excuse.
By the way this is other people inviting me to play. Although I’ve also had recurring problems of people inviting me to play and then flaking to play with someone else instead (the same game) or inviting me, having me wait ages for them to finish a game they’re in, and then immediately “having to go” after (adults).
I am not a good player so I understand if others don’t want to play with me. Why are they inviting me then? It’s annoying. I’d prefer they just didn’t invite me.
This seems like anti-social behavior to me, but maybe in the male-dominated world of gaming this is just the norm.
This is also out-of-character for these people, who I know IRL and are usually very polite then. I am thinking maybe I will stop gaming with them since this is rubbing me the wrong way.