THIS ISN’T ABOUT YOU. THIS WAS NEVER ABOUT YOU.
This isn’t about how men are involved because “What if my girlfriend needs an abortion?” Women need abortion access and you don’t have to fucking justify it with how it might affect you one day.
This isn’t about how “trans and non-binary people will be affected, too!” Because if there is any take that is outstanding shitty, it’s the take that women’s rights need to be justified with statements about they affect people besides women. Feminism is totally unique in this case. We don’t go to BLM rallies and start blowing air about how this is important because it affects white and mixed-race people, too. Because it fucking doesn’t. No one says “BLM is for everyone!,” or really that any social justice movement outside of feminism is “for everyone.” Feminism is for women. It’s for females. Acting like it’s somehow important because, in a nonsensical way, it’s about TIMs is like arguing that rape is wrong because it can make the male partners of victims really upset. Fuck that shit. EITHER UNDERSTAND THAT THIS IS ABOUT WOMEN, OR FUCK OFF. We don’t need people at our rallies and protests making a point about how this isn’t really about women. Because it 100% totally fucking is.
This isn’t about pouncing on women panicking about their erasure and eroding of their rights to remind them to always talk about you. Making every conversation we’ve had about you has led to this. IF YOU ARE A TIM, YOU HAVE LOST NOTHING. Stop trying to act like you have ANY skin in this game. If someone was screaming that their house was on fire and their family was inside, your way of thinking would have the proper response be a talking-to on how all sorts of buildings can experience environmental hazards too, people can keep things they love and value in those buildings, and the big issue here is they’re not using inclusive language that specifically points that out. Fuck your burning house, lady, have you even considered being kind? Fuck. You. The second you start reminding women in the midst of their own oppression about how much they need to think about other people, you’re feeding so much into feminine stereotypes of martyrdom and giving oneself up that you would do infinitely more for this movement by sitting down and shutting the fuck up. Narcissism has no place here. Sometimes it’s not about you. Die mad about it.
You are either with women, or you can just fuck right the hell off.