It is a humongous red flag when a man leads with a sob story. I have never met a man who does this early on and doesn’t turn around later to try to use it as a manipulation tactic.

Also, can’t say I endorse this method but I had several instances where guys stated they would end their life if I didn’t (fill in the blank) when I was younger and gave more men the benefit of the doubt. I always responded with some version of “okay, go ahead then.” Shockingly so far not a single one of those men is dead yet many years later as far as I am aware.