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[–] Free_Metis RadFemMcGonagall 8 points Edited

Fucking this. I had 0 help from anyone and when I did get advice, it was bad. I had to push through and figure it out for myself.

Yes. My health visitor was all for me quitting. When my baby was a week old she looked at what he'd dumped in his nappies and said "This is what we call starvation stools." Okay, fuck off, lady.

I persisted through bleeding nipples, excruciating pain, and mastitis, none of which I got any help with, and when he was six weeks old I moved to a country in Africa and it was a blessed relief: everybody treated public breastfeeding as perfectly normal and not remotely sexualised. I told my Sudanese friend I was worried because my baby wanted to feed every two hours (that 'starvation stools' comment was preying on my mind) and she said, "Oh, that's nothing, in my culture we feed them every twenty minutes," which was the single best thing anyone could have said to me. I relaxed and just went with the flow - literally!