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This seems to be a thing. I wrote about it a bit here but very interested to hear other women's experiences, observations, and analysis of what's going on here.

This seems to be a thing. [I wrote about it a bit here](https://elizamondegreen.substack.com/p/leaving-your-husband-to-find-your) but very interested to hear other women's experiences, observations, and analysis of what's going on here.

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[–] Luckystar 0 points Edited

The cases I know of are usually married to an AGP TIM, and I think they do it for a few reasons: Wanting to feel like a "part of the transgender community" is part of it, the same generic reasons any woman goes TIF are part of it (eg wanting to be viewed as a human rather than a sex object, wanting clout if you live in a progressive bubble). But the top reason I think is out of some idea of "validating" their husband. They can't simply exist around their husband constantly reminding him what he is NOT - a woman. Their husband's precious feefees are much too important for that. They think if they hide any trace of womanhood that will appease the AGP. Some of them I think are also brainwashed so much, they look at their male husband, a grotesque pornified parody of femininity, declaring he is a real woman, and they think -- "Well, I'm certainly not like that, so it must be me who is not a woman". This can happen on a greater societal level too but the cognitive dissonance must be very intense when you have to keep up the charade day in and day out even within your own home.

I don't know of many cases of a non-TIM man sticking around with a woman who has a beard and removed her breasts.

I suppose there's also the they/them types, the women who continue to be women who perform femininity (okay maybe they'll wear pants now and then) but identify as transgender despite not even "trying", again because of the gendie clout. In those cases I suppose their male partners put up with it because there's effectively no meaningful difference and pandering with a "they" here and there is worth it for getting laid in their minds.