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This seems to be a thing. I wrote about it a bit here but very interested to hear other women's experiences, observations, and analysis of what's going on here.

This seems to be a thing. [I wrote about it a bit here](https://elizamondegreen.substack.com/p/leaving-your-husband-to-find-your) but very interested to hear other women's experiences, observations, and analysis of what's going on here.

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[–] hellamomzilla 18 points Edited

Isn't this just a new version of a mid-life crisis for women? It seems that if your husband is loving and you love him, you are likely having issues with health things or perimenopause or just "shit, I'm getting older" and that's a NORMAL HUMAN LIFE STAGE. In fact, shaking up one's life is a known reaction to these issues, but they usually didn't involve lying about reality and fucking up your endocrine system.

In a group of women I was a part of until my teen had ROGD related, I'm certain, to her being a lesbian and mentally ill, I watched them (all about ten years my junior) leave their husbands. For a few, there were definite reasons everyone could appreciate -- cheating, addiction issues on the husband's part. But the bulk seemed to just want a big shakeup. Some also determined they were lesbians. One, famously, decided she was a lesbian and went off on social media, but kept her husband tethered and wouldn't allow HIM to move on.

Turning your emotional/mental health/midlife issues into medical ones, though, is some insane shit from therapists.