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This seems to be a thing. I wrote about it a bit here but very interested to hear other women's experiences, observations, and analysis of what's going on here.

This seems to be a thing. [I wrote about it a bit here](https://elizamondegreen.substack.com/p/leaving-your-husband-to-find-your) but very interested to hear other women's experiences, observations, and analysis of what's going on here.

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I can only speculate, but I think women who are already in a hetero relationship and trans themselves are likely unhappy in that relationship.

They're either making themselves less attractive for their partners (in which case one may wonder why a woman wants to be less sexually appealing to her partner ... there's quite a few ugly reasons for that) or they are with men who find surgically mutilated women more attractive, which ... would be extremely disturbing.

Also, let's not forget that there's quite a few gay men who marry women and do not disclose that they are gay. A woman might subconsciously (or consciously) pick up on what her husband really likes and try to become it.

The case of the midlife-crisis transing seems to me a result of social contagion, similar to ROGD in teen girls - whenever someone feels vaguely unhappy with their life, without being able to pinpoint the reason, transing is prescribed as cure. The current trend for navel-gazing makes sure that people notice that they are vaguely unhappy.