i need to vent somewhere and i'm absolutely petrified by the reactions i would get if i talked to anyone i know in real life, so here goes . . .
a guy i was friends with in high school recently added me to a private facebook group called "[name's] cute girl support team". he basically added fucking every girl and woman he's ever been mildly friendly with. the group has around a hundred people at this point. he came out as a "trans woman" in the group and entreated people not to tell others outside the group (imo it's heinously stupid to add dozens of people from your small hometown to a group whose existence you want to keep secret, but whatever).
the stated purpose of the group is as follows: "This group will act as my safe-space from scary boomers, future employers, irrational parents, and all the gross cis men who may start messaging again me if I post another dress pic, lmao. As well, this is where I will begin asking for support-- whether asking for handed-down clothing, someone to chat with when I may feel low, selfie compliments, reassurance (constantly), platonic cuddles, make-up tips, emergency girls-nites, etc. hehehe,," so basically he wants a harem of young women to provide free and personalized emotional labour for him 24/7. i feel too guilty to post screenshots, but it's a treasure-trove of yuck.
this is a guy who had a neckbeard all throughout high school and who constantly made girls (including myself) feel incredibly uncomfortable. earlier this year, i finally came out as a lesbian to my friends after years of self-harm and self-loathing and hardly received a word of support. meanwhile, half of the girls i know (who hated him in high school for being a total creep) are losing it over how ~brave and gorgeous~ he is. i'd rather stay closeted forever than receive that sort of attention for coming out, but that in itself indicates to me how performative and weird his entire thing is. actual gay people who have come out just wanna be respected and treated like normal humans, not treated like mentally-challenged deities. i was the only person in my extended group of friends who was nice to him when he still identified as a man, but now i know i'll get flack if i don't wholeheartedly buy into him as a fellow ~lesbian queen~. pisses me off.
anyway, sorry for the big rant and sorry if this isn't the right place to post this. i'm just so upset that i know i'll say something i regret if i don't vent somewhere. i hope it's not suspicious that i haven't posted screenshots; i know this reads like a total caricature of the worst of trans people, but i really do feel too guilty to post someone's private facebook posts on the internet.