I went to a gay bar last night. I went outside to smoke by myself and met two young women who were very nice. I went back inside.
Some time later, I came back outside with my husband and I saw them again but I left them alone. At some point, I looked over again and a "surprise" sound effect went off in my head. One of the women had a man sitting super close to her with his arm behind her on the railing. When I tell you she looked like she was made of stone, she was so tense.
My brain registered this body language before it registered the rest, which was that this man, who was very large and looked to be in his 40s at the youngest, was wearing a blonde wig, a babydoll top which failed to cover his gut, and I think jean shorts.
It was kinda crazy. He looked just like the cringe pictures/videos I see online. I was like, Jesus. This man probably has kids.
Not to go on a tangent but I find something so terrifying about a man who is willing to do this. Terrifying. How unhinged and delusional you have to be to have the unwelcome confidence to flaunt your fetish and disrespect for all to see and deal with.
Anyways. I went over and asked the woman if she and her friend could come over to me because I wanted to ask them about something from our earlier convo. We sat down and they said, what's up? I said nothing, you just looked super tense and uncomfortable so I wanted to give you an out. If I was wrong then I'm sorry and you could totally go right back. They said thank you and we talked some more.
The TIM, I only saw him when I went outside to smoke and he was like an annoying fly buzzing around her. He only had eyes for her. The thing is, she was very attractive, so even if he wasn't wearing his misogynistic costume and didn't look insane, he'd still be way the fuck out of her league. And he's way too old. I did get pissed off when she was sitting down talking to (and flirting with) someone I came with and he was literally standing over about eight feet away blatantly staring at her. I glared at him until he saw me and looked away from her.
Anyway, the main point of sharing this is that this is the most typical male behavior ever. His wig can't cover his predatory eyeballs and salivating mouth. His high heels didn't stop him from bothering a woman who was about 20 years his junior. There is no difference between him and the "cis" man that was bothering the other woman.