“Many La Leche League Leaders are experiencing moral distress due to the actions of the Board of Directors. The LLL Board has created language policies that result in the promotion of men attempting to breastfeed. Not only do these policies hurt women and children, they force Leaders to make a choice that often goes against their sense of ethical breastfeeding practices. Mothers’ and babies’ well being is an after thought, glibly traded for woke value signaling status.”

Why am i not surprised that LLL is throwing women under the bus for men larping as women?

[–] Maplefields 4 points Edited

What a powerful letter. I hope the Board of Directors finally hear this before mothers’ support loses more volunteers.

Side note: can anyone explain this bit to me?

Additionally, other factors change depending on what you are feeding a baby. Bedsharing/cosleeping is protective against SIDS/SUDI if you are exclusively breastfeeding your new/very young baby, but the opposite is true if you are not. Formula feeding combined with sleeping with a baby creates a risk for babies dying

Why would breastfeeding change this?

Edit: https://archive.ph/fsjfJ

Link Title Why don’t you think bedsharing can be done safely enough if a mother is bottlefeeding?

Breastfeeding changes where and how the baby is placed next to the mother, to begin with, and the infant’s arousal patterns, how sensitive the baby and the mother are to each other’s movements and sounds and proximities, as well as the infant’s and the mother’s sleep architecture (how much time each spends in various sleep stages and how and when they move out of one sleep stage into another) are very different between bottle feeding and breastfeeding mother-infant pairs. Not only is the physiology or sensitivity of the mother to the baby, and the baby to the mother completely enhanced if breastfeeding and if routinely bedsharing, i.e. each reacting to each others sounds and movements and touches compared to the bottle or formula fed, bedsharing mothers and infant, but breastfeeding mothers and infants arouse more frequently with respect to each others arousals, and breastfeeding mothers and infants compared with bottle feeding mother-infant pairs spend significantly more time in lighter rather than deeper stages of sleep. Lighter sleep makes it easier for a mother and infant to detect and respond to the presence of the other, making the bed sharing arrangement much safer.

Breastfeeding mothers typically place their infants under their triceps, mid chest level, and often sleep on their side curling up around the infant protectively with their knees often pulled up under the infant’s feet. This position may be instinctive but it does not happen when a mother bottle feeds her baby. Indeed, bottle fed infants are typically placed much higher up on the bed and near pillows (and sometimes on top of pillows, very dangerous) that can obscure the infants air flow, and expose infants to potential gaps (head board to mattress) into within infants could slip.

Also, bottle feeding-bedsharing infants move in directions away from the mother, thus, increasing the risks of some kind of asphyxial event, compared with breastfeeding infants, according to the research by Dr. Helen Ball. (Please check out her website at the University of Durham). That is why Dr. Ball and myself agree that bottle fed infants are safer if they sleep alongside their mothers on a different surface but not in the same bed.

Never let an infant sleep alone in a room by itself, especially by itself on an adult bed or couch, and always be attentive to the infant, carrying or keeping an infant in your mind (as most parents do, anyway); (From the well researched work of Dr. James McKenna, the world’s leading authority on mother-infant co-sleeping in relationship to breastfeeding and SIDS).

Thank you! That was very interesting. Though the part about sleeping lighter sounds terrible to me as someone who loves deep sleep. Mothers sacrifice a lot for their babies.

[–] SecondSkin 2 points Edited

If exclusively breastfeeding we will have high prolactin levels, which means menstruation is paused. I found I was much less tired until the point I night weaned and got my period back. Other women might find the same, especially given anaemia during pregnancy and excessive blood loss at birth are common. So menstruation returning straight after birth might be doubly hard on mums health if anaemic from pregnancy and birth. And hormonal shifts can be very difficult to adjust to after birth for any of us, adding in usual pmt/pmdd must be very tough straight away again after all that.

More sleep without deep stages and no fully awake periods versus sleep cycles potentially having deep sleep stages being disrupted by having to get up physically and feed and settle a baby (often not straight forward) and then try to calm down and return to sleep. Unless mum has a lot of help to do night bottle feeds, i would think the first option would give her more sleep throughout the first 6 months or so at least.

There’s some talk about the constant skin to skin contact nursing mums get giving her an oxytocin a boost also. I’m not as sold that one makes any difference to sleep/sanity in reality. But it maybe does.

The guidance to not leave baby alone in a room for any sleeps is for the first 6 months. Based on all the up to date SIDS guidance.

We do sacrifice a lot though that’s true, whatever is opted for.

Never let an infant sleep alone in a room by itself

Tall order, that.