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I met a MtF this past week who had it all done. Long hair, tasteful make up, large breasts, vaginoplasty (it was a clothing optional event - gods save my eyes)...and I clocked that dude from a mile away.

Although I know it to be true, it just reinforced that passing is simply not possible. You can mutilate yourself till the cows come home, and your voice, manly brow ridge, eye shape, shoulders, arms, back, straight waist, hips, mannerisms and leg musculature...it's all man baby. There's no getting around it. Online filters make it possible, but in real life? Please.

I'd also like to add that out of all the MtFs I've had the misfortune of knowing in real life, he was probably one of the closet to 'passing', and still, the end result of that suffering? We can all still tell.

When I read through MtF boards, their claims that 'no one knows the difference' becomes that much more bizarre. Lies lies and damned lies.

I met a MtF this past week who had it all done. Long hair, tasteful make up, large breasts, vaginoplasty (it was a clothing optional event - gods save my eyes)...and I clocked that dude from a mile away. Although I know it to be true, it just reinforced that passing is simply not possible. You can mutilate yourself till the cows come home, and your voice, manly brow ridge, eye shape, shoulders, arms, back, straight waist, hips, mannerisms and leg musculature...it's all man baby. There's no getting around it. Online filters make it possible, but in real life? Please. I'd also like to add that out of all the MtFs I've had the misfortune of knowing in real life, he was probably one of the closet to 'passing', and still, the end result of that suffering? We can all still tell. When I read through MtF boards, their claims that 'no one knows the difference' becomes that much more bizarre. Lies lies and damned lies.

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Ironically, it's the opposite -- I have no way of knowing if any random given man is just a man with long hair vs a man who calls himself a woman, until they open their mouths and prattle on about their pronouns and identities.

This so much. At this point when I see a dude with long hair out and about and might have to interact with him, that's a slightly back of the head nagging doubt because I don't know if he not only expects me to pretend he's a woman, but also believes he passes and will throw a tantrum if he figures out he's been "clocked."

Now be me hanging around metal heads a lot.

My partner has had very long hair for decades. Starting around 4 years ago, woke women started addressing him as ma'am or asked how he identifies, there isn't anything even remotely androgynous or feminine about his appearance or dress, so they're just responding to his hair. He didn't understand what was going on until I explained trans and gender ideology to him. In response, he kept his hair long and grew a huge beard instead. I now live with Rasputin.