Is it surprising that a nerd space was overtaken by crossdressing males? No. But god for a moment, just a moment, I thought I was safe because the community didn't have pronoun tags. But who would I encounter? Why, none other than one of the TIMs that originally pushed me into peeking 120%. This is a guy I ran into years ago. He tried to nudge his way into my social group by making the most convoluted lies I'd ever heard (e.g. he was drugged and robbed by Nigerians while living as a male in Japan), and it was part of what really started making me sick of TRAs. We found his "pre-transition" photos while he was larping as an Asian woman back then. Needless to say, he's a white guy; his voice was like gravel too. So, when I confronted him about this, he tried to say he was intersex, and that he was neither male nor female, but turned female thanks to HRT. And at the same time he's also not transgender and hates trans identified people.
Now, today a couple people in this new community I joined got into an argument with him about his lies, saying that this true and honest™ lesbian woman was indeed a man. He stated that he was born without either set of gametes and genitalia. He said the doctor did an invasive procedure that made him male, and so was forced to live as male during the 3 out of the 4 seasons, as he enjoyed living as a female during the summer. He then said his dad bought testosterone pills to force a male puberty. No doctor required apparently. This caused him to develop entirely male somehow. I mean, looking at his picture, it's very clearly a male skull he's got. The brow ridge does not lie. So now that he's on estrogen, he's saying that he's 100% female because it activated his intersex genes? Or something equally stupid as far as phrasing goes. What is it with the self-hating TIMs that pose as female intersex lesbians? It's insane how common it seems to be. When asked what his genetic sex is he never answered and said he's neither because sex is a spectrum, and he linked a bunch of opinion articles.
I'm actually fairly surprised. I remember years ago there was that one "sex is a spectrum" oped, but now there's dozens and dozens. I didn't realize pop science had been so completely taken over by this batshit "progressive" concept. Examples given:
And if you google "is sex binary?" you will be hit with a mountain of these. Sex is a bimodal distribution system. And so there is a genetic blueprint. Why is that so often denied? Humans wouldn't exist without it. No animal would. Humans evolved to have two legs, two arms, two eyes, two nostrils, and two sexes. Can this bimodal distribution system mess up? Yes, but that doesn't change someone's genetic blueprint. The base of the body is paramount in defining what your sex is, and we currently only have two models of that. This is the part where TRAs scream about XXY and all that jazz. But that doesn't actually change anything. It just means that our distribution system may throw a few curveballs to the male side. That doesn't make them less male however. A feminine male? Sure. More complicated cases may be where a fetus develops as female because the Y chromosome's SRY gene didn't activate. That still presents a female body with reproductive capabilities/potential/design/blueprints. Because that's often how we define female, which then includes women who have gone through menopause or have suffered a birth defect rendering them infertile. This is not including, however, men that have internal testicles and so forth. And that's what they don't get, and they make the same stupid argument every single time: that they're the same as infertile women, but they're not. A birth defect does not change the basal structure of the body (i.e., male or female), but instead alters the type of female or male that person ends up. In essence, whether or not a baby girl is born with a defective vulva, or a doctor does some supremely disgusting shit, that is still a baby girl with a nonstandard set of genitalia. Of course when I say anything about this it's dismissed as "right-wing hate".
And I rant about this not just because of this one TIM, as this is the third one I've come across spouting this rhetoric in the past month. The first one was a TIM begging me to have "hot lesbian sex" with him. I immediately felt revulsion and got into an argument with him. He kept playing stupid and making roundabout arguments concerning what a woman actually is. The third one was a woman I thought I befriended online, but instead it was another TIM unwilling to admit he was a TIM; simply stating that I'm a dumbass for not understanding what a second puberty is, and how it happens naturally and is in every high school biology textbook. When I asked for a link he was unable to provide one and insulted me further. Guy was very mad I kept making jokes about a potential genetic disease that would make a woman-only world too (because I read a comic about it). Obviously he fussed over what would qualify as male and dictated it should be about hormonal levels. Why else other than their magical holy water: HRT.
Anyway, I'd mostly decided to ignore the TIM in that community afterward. That is until one of the mods revealed himself: another TIM. Here was his announcement about the conversation that took place. Apparently, it's hate to simply question a TIM and then proceed to explain how his concept of "intersex" is nonsensical. I stated he would have a karyotype that's either male or female. That was what triggered the furry TIM mod in lolita dress to come out of the woodwork. Everywhere is a safe space for TIMs. But women? Lesbians? Nah. We don't deserve any. But hey, TIMs are just trying to live comfortable lives right? We're very hateful for acknowledging sex is real, which is apparently what's insulting to them. Hate is truly awful, but it's okay for him to say he hates us. I didn't bother to argue and instead left. I'm sure I'll find a community free of gender ideology. Eventually.
Oh and as a bonus to this rant. I bought a new book. I'm trying to build a library, or well, a study, which has a large focus on women's history and fiction. I saw "Outlawed" at the bookstore and the cashier said it was really good. I looked up a couple reviews before I bought it, and no surprise, the TRAs were extremely angry about "white feminism" and a "TERF western". I bought it, but the author is definitely a fan of gender theory, as denoted by the use of pronouns in bio on Twitter. This is echoed in the story through the fact the main outlaw is a nonbinary female that doesn't like pronouns. And it's heralded by critics as a great "queer" women's book that has nonbinary representation. I made it to page 70 before I started getting annoyed by this. Apparently 40 more pages and they go around tricking gay cowboys into fucking them (or talk about it?), but also reject anyone born male into their group. Not sure really how to feel about the book, but the reviews I mentioned by the trans identified people makes me laugh a lot. This one was pretty ironic in particular:
But then I got to pages 117-118, where three of these women start discussing how they have, can, and should disguise themselves as men (“that’s the best way to charm some men”), get into sexual relationships with cowboys who like other men (“plenty of cowboys like other cowboys”), and “do whatever you want to them, but your clothes stay on. And sometime while you are drinking together, you mention a horrible accident you were in a while back. Gored by a bull, whatever. That explains anything they feel or don’t feel on your body.” Because, “the good news is, most men are pretty stupid, and pretty gullible. They want to believe what you tell them.” So yeah. I do in fact draw the line at casual discussions of women tricking gay men into sexual interactions with them under false pretenses and, as a friend pointed out when the passage was sent to them, painting the queer men out to be the predators in that situation. As a trans man, and a queer man, absolutely not. I’m done. I thought I left girls trying to catfish gay men back in high school when they were doing it on the internet. I can’t go any further. Also, maybe don’t read if you have dysphoria/are worried about picking up new insecurities within dysphoria, I’d say especially if you are transmasc but since that’s what I know, I’m not sure it’s any worse.
I almost bought a book on Patricia Highsmith too, but there were too many pro-trans blurbs on the book. Patricia Highsmith of all people. Bleh. So now I feel motivated to finish some old fictional narratives, but I wonder who would publish me when I inevitably take swings at gender ideology. A little all over the place, but that's been my week online between writing papers and driving around.