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Abusive men love to use them. I'm sure that somewhere in the spiel about how badly abused he was by her, it's that she literally tried to kill him by continuing to do/refuse to do the thing that he told her he wanted her to do/stop doing or else he would kill himself.

I'm fucking sick of abusive male tactics forcing women into silence. I hate that manipulative suicide threats are working to make people believe that words and radical feminism represent actual, literal violence. It always comes down to suicides when someone really locks them down and asks what exactly they mean when trans lives are at stake. It's never about actual murders, committed overwhelmingly by men. It's always about how we can't even talk about this or they will kill themselves.

Title. Abusive men love to use them. I'm sure that somewhere in the spiel about how badly abused *he* was by *her*, it's that she literally tried to kill him by continuing to do/refuse to do the thing that he told her he wanted her to do/stop doing or else he would kill himself. I'm fucking sick of abusive male tactics forcing women into silence. I hate that manipulative suicide threats are working to make people believe that words and radical feminism represent actual, literal violence. It always comes down to suicides when someone really locks them down and asks what exactly they mean when trans lives are at stake. It's never about actual murders, committed overwhelmingly by men. It's always about how we can't even talk about this or they will kill themselves.

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the constant threat of hospitalization is why I don't ever feel safe discussing nearly anything with my parents

"oh, you want to die because you have little to no freedom in your life? let's make that even worse in the name of 'helping'"

Most parents aren’t psych professionals though.

If they didn’t take a child with a broken leg to a & e they would be negligent. Mh life or death crisis isn’t any different. Parents often won’t know what to do for the best and can’t help that mh emergency services are so poor.

[–] VestalVirgin 2 points Edited

Is it this horrible everywhere?

I kinda cannot imagine that it's like this in Germany. Scares me.

And yeah, if someone feels suicidal and they're serious about it, it is the done thing to get professional help.

(That said, even assuming it is kinda better here, I wouldn't want to go to an institution because I heard ... bad things, also about institutions here. Getting a good psychotherapist before things get this bad is always preferrable.)

I don't know but hopefully the protocol would be a little better in Germany. Hospitals in the US are afraid of being sued if a suicidal patient hurts/kills themselves on hospital grounds, so they'll do absolutely anything to prevent that from happening.