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Abusive men love to use them. I'm sure that somewhere in the spiel about how badly abused he was by her, it's that she literally tried to kill him by continuing to do/refuse to do the thing that he told her he wanted her to do/stop doing or else he would kill himself.

I'm fucking sick of abusive male tactics forcing women into silence. I hate that manipulative suicide threats are working to make people believe that words and radical feminism represent actual, literal violence. It always comes down to suicides when someone really locks them down and asks what exactly they mean when trans lives are at stake. It's never about actual murders, committed overwhelmingly by men. It's always about how we can't even talk about this or they will kill themselves.

Title. Abusive men love to use them. I'm sure that somewhere in the spiel about how badly abused *he* was by *her*, it's that she literally tried to kill him by continuing to do/refuse to do the thing that he told her he wanted her to do/stop doing or else he would kill himself. I'm fucking sick of abusive male tactics forcing women into silence. I hate that manipulative suicide threats are working to make people believe that words and radical feminism represent actual, literal violence. It always comes down to suicides when someone really locks them down and asks what exactly they mean when trans lives are at stake. It's never about actual murders, committed overwhelmingly by men. It's always about how we can't even talk about this or they will kill themselves.

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I've never been through this but honestly if I was suicidal this is the reason I would never tell someone. That sounds horrible. Wouldn't that kind of treatment make someone even more suicidal?

I'd never dream of making someone feel this way if they came to me genuinely. I would tell them that the hospital sucks ass in a gentle way - I've been there myself and simply sitting waiting for intake was enough to convince me I'd shelve the whole plan if I could just go back home and sleep in my own bed. If they really needed to go though, I'd help them get there.

Now, if it came from someone I was very sick of hearing threaten it over and over again, or who tried to do it to manipulate me? That would range from something much like OP said, or something worse.