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Abusive men love to use them. I'm sure that somewhere in the spiel about how badly abused he was by her, it's that she literally tried to kill him by continuing to do/refuse to do the thing that he told her he wanted her to do/stop doing or else he would kill himself.

I'm fucking sick of abusive male tactics forcing women into silence. I hate that manipulative suicide threats are working to make people believe that words and radical feminism represent actual, literal violence. It always comes down to suicides when someone really locks them down and asks what exactly they mean when trans lives are at stake. It's never about actual murders, committed overwhelmingly by men. It's always about how we can't even talk about this or they will kill themselves.

Title. Abusive men love to use them. I'm sure that somewhere in the spiel about how badly abused *he* was by *her*, it's that she literally tried to kill him by continuing to do/refuse to do the thing that he told her he wanted her to do/stop doing or else he would kill himself. I'm fucking sick of abusive male tactics forcing women into silence. I hate that manipulative suicide threats are working to make people believe that words and radical feminism represent actual, literal violence. It always comes down to suicides when someone really locks them down and asks what exactly they mean when trans lives are at stake. It's never about actual murders, committed overwhelmingly by men. It's always about how we can't even talk about this or they will kill themselves.

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It must be pretty nice to live in a world that cares so much about whether you live or die that complete strangers capitulate when you bleat about being in danger at your own hand.

I’ll admit to a certain level of Schadenfreude every time the following happens: some person (not always but often trans-identifying) is in a DARK PLACE and rapid-fire posting their scary abusive bullshit all over the feeds of their friends. They go silent for roughly 48 hours and then reappear, FURIOUS, because some ASSHOLE called emergency services and it resulted in an involuntary psychiatric hold that their work etc knows about now.

There is honestly nothing more hilarious than someone throwing a tantrum because someone who actually knows them (and doesn’t just exist in a hugbox online) took their suicide threat seriously and responded accordingly and responsibly and productively.

I’m convinced that none of them want to die. They want crushing tons of emotional labor from others so they can masturbate to a preview of their own fawning eulogies.

Yup. You are truly that depressed? Try therapy for months, it’s time consuming, often really uncomfortable, and requires serious effort to help you fix your own life and mind.

Oh, you just wanted lots of attention and coddling? This is my shocked face.

Not quite so bad, but my sister-in-law constantly VagueBooks and post things on her personal feed saying “got some devastating news today,” or “absolutely gutted.” No actual follow up or context of course. I typically ignore it which makes her mad but I’m not playing those idiotic games. Happy to listen if she wants to talk, not getting drawn into social media drama.