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Abusive men love to use them. I'm sure that somewhere in the spiel about how badly abused he was by her, it's that she literally tried to kill him by continuing to do/refuse to do the thing that he told her he wanted her to do/stop doing or else he would kill himself.

I'm fucking sick of abusive male tactics forcing women into silence. I hate that manipulative suicide threats are working to make people believe that words and radical feminism represent actual, literal violence. It always comes down to suicides when someone really locks them down and asks what exactly they mean when trans lives are at stake. It's never about actual murders, committed overwhelmingly by men. It's always about how we can't even talk about this or they will kill themselves.

Title. Abusive men love to use them. I'm sure that somewhere in the spiel about how badly abused *he* was by *her*, it's that she literally tried to kill him by continuing to do/refuse to do the thing that he told her he wanted her to do/stop doing or else he would kill himself. I'm fucking sick of abusive male tactics forcing women into silence. I hate that manipulative suicide threats are working to make people believe that words and radical feminism represent actual, literal violence. It always comes down to suicides when someone really locks them down and asks what exactly they mean when trans lives are at stake. It's never about actual murders, committed overwhelmingly by men. It's always about how we can't even talk about this or they will kill themselves.

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"You're suicidal? Okay, that's a medical emergency. I will take you to the ER at once. You'll have all of your personal items taken from you, you'll probably be strip searched and watched while you use the bathroom. Then you'll be locked up for at least five days. Okay, ready to go?"

Those of you who have also been hospitalized for this reason know how it is.

Yep. It is awful and dehumanizing (especially when you're a weak, small, sexually abused 18-year-old-girl and there are men in the ward). Other mentally ill friends have told me "I'd never go to the psych ward/mental hospital" but I had no choice due to my suicide attempts. The only bright sparks were talking to other people and realizing I was not alone and could be understood.

I am confident more people would stop threatening to kill themselves if they actually went. :)