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I wanted to post about my afternoon because it was really great :)

Every week the local leisure centre has an hour long swim for women only - it’s a very recent thing and there weren’t many of us there.

It was a small group but a mix of ages, sizes, ethnicities and capabilities. There were about 10 of us in total, all chatting and having a laugh. I went with my mum and was the youngest there. It was lovely meeting all these women who were such pleasant company.

It was the nicest swim I’ve ever had! Really cemented for me how much more relaxed, comfortable and friendly female only spaces are. It’s a totally different dynamic to mixed sex swimming.

I really hope no TIM’s catch wind of it, we all know they’d be in there ruining everything with their maleness - not to mention the changing area, there are no cubicles and the knowledge that a LARPing male can enter is a big worry - idk what the policy on TIP’s is at this leisure centre.

Women deserve space away from men. We thrive in female only company.

I wanted to post about my afternoon because it was really great :) Every week the local leisure centre has an hour long swim for women only - it’s a very recent thing and there weren’t many of us there. It was a small group but a mix of ages, sizes, ethnicities and capabilities. There were about 10 of us in total, all chatting and having a laugh. I went with my mum and was the youngest there. It was lovely meeting all these women who were such pleasant company. It was the nicest swim I’ve ever had! Really cemented for me how much more relaxed, comfortable and friendly female only spaces are. It’s a totally different dynamic to mixed sex swimming. I really hope no TIM’s catch wind of it, we all know they’d be in there ruining everything with their maleness - not to mention the changing area, there are no cubicles and the knowledge that a LARPing male can enter is a big worry - idk what the policy on TIP’s is at this leisure centre. Women deserve space away from men. We thrive in female only company.

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This is why I went to a women's college, which unfortunately now accepts anyone who "identifies as" a woman 🤬

That sucks :( I hate that stupid phrasing “identifies as a woman” like FFS we don’t “identify as” we just ARE women. So sick of men colonising and destroying, as though they haven’t taken enough from us since the beginning of civilisation 😡

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"Identify as" is ruined enough for me, too, that it's probably unsalvageable and needs to be regretfully tossed in the incinerator pile... yeah, that pile over there, with "folks" on top.

Not a TRA invention, though. The US Census has happily asked respondents to "identify as" all sorts of categories that can't possibly be known to anyone but you (religious affiliation; main language spoken at home; ethnicity/ies; etc.) for almost 200 years now, and it's a solid bet that the UK census has been doing it for way longer still.

Yes. This is exactly why we need our own sports too.

Even if women were competitive with men, that doesn't matter. This belongs to us, not them.

I play in an adult league sport. Its not an easy sport to learn and I'm an absolute rookie, but the women's only local league is very welcoming to new players in order to grow the game. We don't always have the most competitive games because of this. There are some women in the league who are lifelong players who also play with co-ed (most male) teams because they want a higher level of play. But they still find it worthwhile to come out and play with the women's league too, because there really is something very special about these spaces.

So true. I really think single sex spaces are essential to women, even if it’s not a safety risk, we need and deserve space away from men, who are after all, our oppressors. It’s healing and soothing to just be around women, away from the male gaze and male scrutiny/sexualisation.

men always spread this lie that we hate each other and the whole "catfight" stereotype. but I think it's just to keep us away from each other - we get along very well, the only ones that don't are pick me girls. that's just a phase though.

Very true. I’ve never understood that stereotype - for sure girls can be “catty” but that’s usually over by the time we leave high school.

I’ve actually found men are far worse gossips, far more likely to badmouth their “friends” and just generally more backstabbing and disloyal.

All my close friends are women and they are completely wonderful, I don’t have a bad word to say about any of them. I think it’s very sad when women (pick me’s) can’t get on with other women and surround themselves with men. Nothing better than female solidarity and support Imo

Even when I was a raging pickme libfem, I always hated girls and women who said they didn't get along with other women and liked boys/men more bc "women are catty"

I have always called these ppl out as self hating women. It used to really insult me when I was younger and everything was a Big Deal. Now I just feel pity for those women bc no matter how much they are "one of the guys", "the guys" will always talk about her and other women in a disgusting way when she's not around

So accurate, men will never really see you as one of the guys. I am so grateful for my friends - they are creative, interesting, hilarious, kind hearted and fiercely loyal women. I pity women who miss out on that.

you also can't be friends with straight men without them having feelings for you at some point, or worse, they only became friends with you to get in your pants. aka fuckzoning.

I do have two straight male friends, both I've been friends with for years. but I keep them at an arm's length just to be safe.

my best friend, who is a lesbian, and I were very close, simply because she is female, and women generally don't have qualms about respecting boundaries.

and of course, there is the general casual misogyny that men tend to have. I'd rather avoid all of that drama. men are way more drama - and a lot of the time, the drama is violent.

Hell yeah, men are gossipy as f**k. Where I work now, where I worked before, I've witnessed this.

Had a similar experience recently. Women only spaces are the best!

That sounds so lovely, it’s amazing how different women’s groups feel isn’t it? Our energy alone is really something else and I’m so happy seeing other women advocating to protect our spaces. It’s so important, everyone should get to experience this, especially the multigenerational aspect too, it’s straight up soul nourishing!

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