I kicked my 22yo [son] out of the house
So for context I am 45 and his father. My son is trans male to female. (Not why I'm kicking him out) I made a throwaway because I don't want this tied to my main account where I mostly just follow cars 🚗 and golf ⛳️ .
So about 2 weeks ago I made the decision that my 22 year old son was leaving the house. My wife supported my decision and it isn't one that came easily but to be honest I can't take his toxic behavior anymore and neither can my 17 and 14 year old. (Boy and girl)
For some background at age 18 my son announced he was dropping out of school. As an adult I couldn't stop him so while I wasn't happy about it and thought it was a mistake I told him. "Fine then you're getting a job and contributing to the household." Which of course resulted in a meltdown about how I'm an shitty father because I refuse to provide housing and food for my adult son and let him play video games and jerk off all day.
So during the start of the pandemic I gave him some grace and didn't try to make him get a job as much but around that time is when he transitioned. I'll be honest I was totally blindsided by it and while I'm not going to devalue anyone I really don't get it. My wife and I have tried to be as supportive as we can be but it's lead to A LOT of tension in our home and between my oldest son and his siblings. It's hard to get used to calling someone a different name and using different pronouns when you've called someone the same things for so long but we've all been trying.
Well 2 weeks ago yet another fight broke out. My oldest son grabbed my daughter of 14 by the throat and slammed her into the wall and started beating her because she accidentally used his real name and when she got screamed at told my oldest son he’s not a woman and was just an ugly man. Which while I am not defending that or saying that's okay a 22 year old man choking and beating a 14 year old girl is so much worse. I had to pry him off of my daughter and pin and hold him to the floor until he calmed down.
My wife took my 14 year old to the hospital while I tried to keep my two sons from killing each other and yelling at my oldest son for doing this to his sister who is A CHILD.
She had a broken nose, broken eye socket needed stitches and was missing a tooth along with lots of bruises and swelling on her face and neck.
My wife and I decided that my oldest son needed to
go to prison move out. He found some friends to live with but of course there was another huge melt down that lasted for days and he keeps saying it's because I'm transphobic. I'm not transphobic. I have tried to be supportive for his entire life but I can't tolerate him beating our youngest child.
Edit: Yes we are pressing charges. I have a home security system that recorded the whole attack.