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I kicked my 22yo [son] out of the house

Link (r/self.confessions)

So for context I am 45 and his father. My son is trans male to female. (Not why I'm kicking him out) I made a throwaway because I don't want this tied to my main account where I mostly just follow cars 🚗 and golf ⛳️ .

So about 2 weeks ago I made the decision that my 22 year old son was leaving the house. My wife supported my decision and it isn't one that came easily but to be honest I can't take his toxic behavior anymore and neither can my 17 and 14 year old. (Boy and girl)

For some background at age 18 my son announced he was dropping out of school. As an adult I couldn't stop him so while I wasn't happy about it and thought it was a mistake I told him. "Fine then you're getting a job and contributing to the household." Which of course resulted in a meltdown about how I'm an shitty father because I refuse to provide housing and food for my adult son and let him play video games and jerk off all day.

So during the start of the pandemic I gave him some grace and didn't try to make him get a job as much but around that time is when he transitioned. I'll be honest I was totally blindsided by it and while I'm not going to devalue anyone I really don't get it. My wife and I have tried to be as supportive as we can be but it's lead to A LOT of tension in our home and between my oldest son and his siblings. It's hard to get used to calling someone a different name and using different pronouns when you've called someone the same things for so long but we've all been trying.

Well 2 weeks ago yet another fight broke out. My oldest son grabbed my daughter of 14 by the throat and slammed her into the wall and started beating her because she accidentally used his real name and when she got screamed at told my oldest son he’s not a woman and was just an ugly man. Which while I am not defending that or saying that's okay a 22 year old man choking and beating a 14 year old girl is so much worse. I had to pry him off of my daughter and pin and hold him to the floor until he calmed down.

My wife took my 14 year old to the hospital while I tried to keep my two sons from killing each other and yelling at my oldest son for doing this to his sister who is A CHILD.

She had a broken nose, broken eye socket needed stitches and was missing a tooth along with lots of bruises and swelling on her face and neck.

My wife and I decided that my oldest son needed to go to prison move out. He found some friends to live with but of course there was another huge melt down that lasted for days and he keeps saying it's because I'm transphobic. I'm not transphobic. I have tried to be supportive for his entire life but I can't tolerate him beating our youngest child.

Edit: Yes we are pressing charges. I have a home security system that recorded the whole attack.

##I kicked my 22yo [son] out of the house [Link (r/self.confessions)](http://archive.today/nSUwh) So for context I am 45 and his father. My son is trans male to female. (Not why I'm kicking him out) I made a throwaway because I don't want this tied to my main account where I mostly just follow cars 🚗 and golf ⛳️ . So about 2 weeks ago I made the decision that my 22 year old son was leaving the house. My wife supported my decision and it isn't one that came easily but to be honest I can't take his toxic behavior anymore and neither can my 17 and 14 year old. (Boy and girl) For some background at age 18 my son announced he was dropping out of school. As an adult I couldn't stop him so while I wasn't happy about it and thought it was a mistake I told him. "Fine then you're getting a job and contributing to the household." Which of course resulted in a meltdown about how I'm an shitty father because I refuse to provide housing and food for my adult son and let him play video games and jerk off all day. So during the start of the pandemic I gave him some grace and didn't try to make him get a job as much but around that time is when he transitioned. I'll be honest I was totally blindsided by it and while I'm not going to devalue anyone I really don't get it. My wife and I have tried to be as supportive as we can be but it's lead to A LOT of tension in our home and between my oldest son and his siblings. It's hard to get used to calling someone a different name and using different pronouns when you've called someone the same things for so long but we've all been trying. Well 2 weeks ago yet another fight broke out. My oldest son grabbed my daughter of 14 by the throat and slammed her into the wall and started beating her because she accidentally used his real name and when she got screamed at told my oldest son he’s not a woman and was just an ugly man. Which while I am not defending that or saying that's okay a 22 year old man choking and beating a 14 year old girl is so much worse. I had to pry him off of my daughter and pin and hold him to the floor until he calmed down. My wife took my 14 year old to the hospital while I tried to keep my two sons from killing each other and yelling at my oldest son for doing this to his sister who is A CHILD. She had a broken nose, broken eye socket needed stitches and was missing a tooth along with lots of bruises and swelling on her face and neck. My wife and I decided that my oldest son needed to ~~go to prison~~ move out. He found some friends to live with but of course there was another huge melt down that lasted for days and he keeps saying it's because I'm transphobic. I'm not transphobic. I have tried to be supportive for his entire life but I can't tolerate him beating our youngest child. Edit: Yes we are pressing charges. I have a home security system that recorded the whole attack.

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The people in the comments choosing to "respect the pronouns" of this abuser are making me physically ill. He beat a child, but you still don't wanna hurt his precious trans feelings. Disturbing.

Reminds me of Null mocking the TRA response to Chris-chan being ~misgendered~ : "You mean SHE raped HER mother with HER penis!"

'This has nothing to do with gender and genitals!' Yes it does.

Yep. Male aggression and violence is very dependant on being male. The fact he chose to beat up a 14 year old female who dared disrespect him is about as male as you can get.

Guaranteed other ppl have called him by the wrong pronouns or name and he hasn't beaten the shit out of them. He picked her bc she's a 14 year old girl and he's a giant cowardly asshole bully.

He needs to go to jail. A MEN'S jail. I srsly cannot believe the fucking extent of that poor child's injuries. He could've killed her. What the fuck.

The son is seriously disturbed. At what point are people going to seriously still stick with ‘transphobia causes these levels of psychological disturbance’ rather than maybe ‘agp and transition is a symptom of a wider psychological disturbance’.

But good on Dad for kicking him out and pressing charges.

It's all a side effect of internet and porn addiction. The TIM in this story is lashing out because his access to his drugs (porn and video games and validation) is being threatened.

Yeah he also sounds like a transcel who thought that “becoming a woman” would be “life on easy mode”.

Exactly, people being mean to them isn’t what makes them how they are, they are how they are because it’s how they are. No further explanation needed. Same with their suicide rates, there’s definitely something else going on there outside of the violence of misgendering and dead naming. You’d have to be a pretty weak person to kill yourself over minor slights like that.

could be ASD they go ape shit over little things and we know alot of TIMs are ASD.

(my kid is ASD I've had to sit on them until they calm down and stop raging, many times over trivial things).

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More likely, it’s down to online radicalisation, and vastly too much time online particularly during the pandemic. To the point that he genuinely equates misgendering with serious violence.

But nobody wants to talk about ‘gender radicalisation’, no, far-left radicalisation is good, only right-wing radicalisation is a threat…

They know they’d get a site wide ban if they don’t respect his pronouns.

It's possible to talk about the violent prick without using pronouns.

Anyone nominally on the left has been psyopped into pretending TIMs are women. It's not just that they're afraid of a ban.

Yes but that involves taking a lot longer to write out a damn reply because your damn brain must stop and think in a different way. People don’t bother with that shit. Most people on the internet are lazy and who the hell wants to write in jilted speech?

What an absolute piece of shit. Shocked and pleased they sided with the daughter. The guys is a violent criminal and belongs behind bars, he has no empathy in him. If he's willing to do that to his kid sister, he doesn't care about anyone.

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His only hope is to get a biiiig reality check. Prison will do that for him, maybe.

Won't be much of a reality check when he is placed in a women's prison and has his choice of victims he can beat the shit out of the same way he did to his kid sister. This world is fucked.

Or even if he goes to a male prison, the men can’t touch him either with risk of being charged with a hate crime and severely increasing their sentence. He’s literally untouchable.

Reminds me of my cross dressing abusive ex. One time I said he never sent cards to his family for special occasions and he doled out the worst beating of our violent relationship, it was so bad he broke my pelvis. These men are unhinged women haters. He probably beat her like that because she’s a girl and he’ll never be one.

I'm so sorry that the POS did that to you. Glad he is an ex.

honestly, that buffalo bill trope from the silence of the lambs is getting more and more real.

Jesus. I am so sorry. What a brute!

He probably beat her like that because she’s a girl and he’ll never be one.

100%. It's clearly jealousy that she gets a natural female coming-of-age and he'd be rightly called a weirdo if he tried to have his own now.

Ew and you just KNOW he's been stealing things from her for god knows how long. That's one thing I noticed across every trans subreddit: they all seem to think it's ok to steal "girl" things from their families and/or try on female family members clothing and underwear

My ex left and took my bathing suit bottoms, his next ex girlfriend told me she found them if I was wondering where they were (I was, they were $90 with the top) f'n pervert.

I'm fairly sure that's why he beat me so much, he hated that I was a woman and he wasn't. He also ranted about hating my "feminist" authors, aka any woman who wrote a book.

JFC. I’m so sorry and I’m really glad you’re OK. I hope you live with minimal signs of this abuse and wish you the very best.

I'm doing ok. Some days are rough. I'm still afraid of him. I never got justice for the things he did, and that seems to make me angry all the time, and it's been almost ten years since I last saw him.

[–] Artistlee19 Chickadee7 116 points

Another example of how much TIMs actually hate real women and girls. He even lashed out violently to his kid sister and have her a broken nose and eye socket.

These TIMs are full of hate and it shows every single day.

Hateful little incel men. Severely beating his little kid sister, my god. How porn sick and twisted does your head need to be to do that?

Father needs to put a restraining order against the oldest son for his daughter and family’s safety, asap. Cut out that venomous, perverted cultist and focus on healing his family.

So fucking violent, seriously. Good on this dad. Feel sorry for the family.

[–] Sailor_Paradise Weird but hey 82 points

I thought he used actual he/him pronouns referred to his son as his son. Turns out you edited it all lol because I highly doubt Reddit would allow "misgendering" to stay up for more than 5 seconds

Broken eye socket? My god, she's 14!

That 17 year old boy at least sounds like he understands what a fucking monster his older brother is...I bet he would have tried to kill him if allowed.

'play video games and jerk off all day' That plus posting to Reddit and harassing women online and IRL literally seems to be all they ever do with their time.

Let's pray the scrote lives in a red state so he isn't put in a women's prison

One of the comments asks if it could have been the hormones.

My PMS has gotten worse as I've gotten older, but someone I have managed to never break one of my kid's faces.

I saw that comment and bark-laughed in amazement out loud.

Oh yes I'm sure the poor cross-dressing man is experiencing ESTROGEN RAGE. I see PSYCHOPATHIC VIOLENT WOMEN all the time because of all that damn estrogen. And even if it is causing some instability it certainly doesn't make us actual women violent monsters who beat little girls in the face until their bones break. The break in logic is unreal.

Fucking reddit is so full of stupid people.

But part of being trans is a permanent “you have no agency and thus cannot be blamed for anything, but simultaneously can insist we do whatever you want” card!

[–] hmimperialtortie AGP = evil 58 points

Good. This filth needs to be locked up and never allowed back near the family again. Fucking transcel gamer should be in a men’s prison for the rest of his worthless life.

Extremely glad dad is pressing charges.

Disturbed, though, that he has any doubts about who is the asshole.

Right? That's why I stopped going to that sub. I couldn't take the, "I forgot to pick up bread after work, so my fiance tied me to a wheelchair, set me on fire, and pushed me down a hill. AITA for asking him to handle the groceries while I'm recovering from my injuries?"

Clarification from OP: I wanna know if I'm the asshole bc when I was in the hospital, he brought me flowers (he got lilies, the only kind I'm allergic to and he knows that, but it's the thought that counts!!) and a book about memory strengthening techniques, since I DID forget the bread. He also told me he's sorry I always forget things."

Me: you are a fucking asshole and so is your fiance

Mods: you're banned again, megan

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