About a month ago, I posted about an email exchange with Nick Mitchell, a Democratic Congressional Candidate from Utah.
He did end up responding, but when it reached the point about setting up a call (with other women), he stopped. I am done with this exchange but wanted to post his comments and my last response, which he has ignored (I did not include all of his email, as it included a discussion of his son (that was friendly, in fairness) but I don't feel comfortable posting about another person's children).
Nick Mitchell, Aug. 30th, 2022:
'' I totally understand the plight that women are in being in a country run by males mostly white if we are being frank. I just want the best for everyone I want everyone to be accepted as they view themselves. I personally was in the closet for 29 years due to aspects like religion( I grew up LDS and even went on a mission to the Philippines) also my race being not straight in the black community was not really accepted that much when I came out my birthday was pretty ashamed of me. Also being in the sport of football where in the entire history of the game there has only been 1 openly gay man on an active NFL roster. The happiest I have been is when I came out as my most authentic self, and all I want for everybody is to be themselves and be as happy as I am.
Now when it comes to gender identity it's something that is new and we are still trying to understand everything about it but as long as no one is getting hurt by it I don't see a problem with it. it's how people choose to self-identify. I am no expert on the matter but I have done a fair amount of research about the issues surrounding it. In hopes to understand the issues on both sides to hopefully come to an understanding and help bring people together instead of creating more division in our country. I am going to answer each of your questions in the second paragraph.
For your first question about those who identify as lesbians being forced to sleep with someone with a penis is unacceptable I don't think anyone should be forced to sleep with people that they don't want to sleep in my mind that falls under conversation therapy which is so wrong I can't stand it.
When it comes to jailing people according to their gender identity specifically people when it comes to people being raped or sleeping together I am aware of the one situation in which a transgender woman impregnated 2 other women while incarcerated. I read it was consensual between the parties at hand but I'm not aware of the legalities of being a prisoner and having sex with one another. We are all well aware that sex does happen in all male of all female prisons. If there has been more than one incident of a transgender woman impregnating another inmate please let me know because I looked for a while and couldn't find any other reports. I have seen a lot of reports of transgender females being abused in male prisons though.
I'm not saying being a woman is not just an identity. The plight of women is extreme the amount of domestic violence, rape, and being paid less is not right in any way shape or form. I think the penalities for rape and domestic violence should be much stiffer than they are. I respect women so much and like everybody I want people to be treated equally an fairly. I personally think women represent the best of humanity. when it comes to doctors I have a real problem because I have experienced the same thing when I'm alone(i am adopted by white people) if they showed up then all a sudden I got a whole lot better care. it's outrageous and makes me mad. people would be treated equally. When it comes to abortion I am extremely pro-choice. like I said I am adopted I'm lucky enough to know my birth parents and I asked my birth mom why she didn't get an abortion she said it had to do with religion which I respect, but she had the choice to get one and the choice was not made for her like it is being done now in so many states in our country.
I want you to know that I support women I want the best for them and for everybody. It was the way I was raised, I also think there is room for us to become more accepting of people and who they are. I know this is a very extremely sensitive issue for a lot of people me included. I honestly think if we come together and talk about these issues we can come to a common understanding and come up with some real viable solutions that make everyone happy. It should never be an us vs. them ideology but an ideology of we are one and we need to come together and reach a common solution that helps and includes everyone. That is my goal and that's why I love talking to people who have different viewpoints than me so I can incorporate their views and ideas into my solutions. Ill definitely read that poem you sent me as well as the hyperlink you sent me.
I am always open to talk if you would like we can set up a zoom meeting or a phone call where we can talk more. I truly do care and understand where you are coming from, and know I will fight for women's rights across the board. When it comes to something new like Transgender rights we need to come together and be more accepting. As we work together I am positive we can come up with solutions so everyone can feel safe, be included, and be their happiest and truest selves. I know there are many more issues surrounding the transgender community and I am happy to talk about them in a respectful manner. Earlier you mentioned that there are a lot of women not just Democrats who feel this way let's get a big zoom meeting together and have a respectful conversation about everything, I am incredibly open to that. How does that sound?
Thanks so much for taking the time to email me and have such an open and honest conversation I hope I explained myself well enough I'm not an eloquent writer but I try if you have more questions or like to communicate further I am extremely open to it just let me know. Thank you so much, Nick Mitchell''
Me, Sept. 1st, 2022: ''Hi Nick,
I appreciate you taking the time to respond. I think a big problem about this issue is the silencing tactics that have been employed to silence women who believe as I do. It is similar to how you responded to that woman on Twitter. For simply disagreeing, we are called bigots and, worse, sent rape and death threats. It is now the acceptable way to insult and threaten violence against women. This is why it's so difficult to organize around this issue. Women are afraid of opening themselves up to that treatment, losing their jobs, and being branded a bigot for understanding the simplest truth of our species. It's madness.
You say that as long as people aren't getting hurt, then there isn't a problem. However, people are getting hurt. Women and girls. When we are told, by people who claim to be progressive, that being a woman is an identity (you may not say it, but the people you support do. The ACLU itself has said there are no differences between men and women. I don't know how anyone can say that with a straight face) and thus not a biological reality determined at conception, then the sex-based protections women have fought for centuries to achieve are meaningless. When men are allowed into women's prisons and women's wards in hospitals (which has lead to assault and rape in prisons in the US, Ireland, and the UK), domestic violence shelters, changing rooms, etc. we are telling women that their safety and their lives are less important than men's feelings. And we can't even discuss it because we are immediately decried as bigots. It feels like a backlash to any gains feminists have made in the last 50 years.
Gender ideology is just that, an ideology. It has no basis in science whatsoever. Just as the earth is not flat, men are not women. Nothing can change the fact that humans are a gonochoric species. You said nothing to refute that, as it is impossible to refute.
It is utterly baffling that so many people have thrown their support behind this, and the only reason I can think of is that because only women are negatively impacted, it is not considered significant, as is the case with so many things women experience because of our biology (like endometriosis, pain in childbirth, menopause etc). It is diminished because we still live in a world dominated by the whims of men.
I will end with this: As I understand and accept biology, I do not believe in gender identity and gender ideology. I think it is more akin to a religion that is being forced on us. However, just as I respect people with religious beliefs, I respect people who say they are trans. I simply know that they are not the opposite sex. For this reason, I do not support the rewriting of laws and policies allowing trans-identified men into places protected for women. I also do not accept the erasure of language that accurately describes female anatomy and experiences. To do otherwise is not accepting; it is ignoring material reality and caters to men at the expense of women. A tale as old as time.
Saying you are trans is nothing like being gay. Sexuality is innate. Sex is immutable. But gender identity? Without relying on sexist stereotypes (such as saying that because you feel feminine, you are a woman, as if being feminine is a prerequisite. It isn't. It's a personality trait), it is impossible to explain clearly.
I would be happy to organize a zoom meeting. This is a very important issue and is making many Democratic women question actually voting for Democrats this year, which is concerning. Again, I appreciate your willingness to discuss this topic. It's encouraging.
So that's the end of that. What a wild ride it was.