And when are the flying monkeys going to wake up? Don't they yet realize that they are carrying water and defending not only hateful, dangerous ideologies, but also utter freaking NONSENSE?
And when are the flying monkeys going to wake up? Don't they yet realize that they are carrying water and defending not only hateful, dangerous ideologies, but also utter freaking NONSENSE?
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These people need a hobby or a skill. This identity crap is crap
You know.. I can SORT OF see the sense or usefulness behind aromantic and asexual identity. Its IMO for people who want to get rid of the whole societal pressure saying you HAVE to have sex and you HAVE to always seek for a relationship or there is something wrong with you. But of course, that doesnt make them part of LGBT or anything and they still often manage to be annoying as fuck
That’s my issue. To me the ace/aros are more akin to the child-free movement than the LGBT. It’s not a sexuality, hell, it’s not even a gender. And yes they are annoying as fuck about their ‘oppression’. Pressure to conform to societal standards does not equal oppression.
I'd like to know how they are oppressed in society, housing, employment, marriage rights, etc. Lesbians and gays were truly oppressed in all of those categories.
An "aro" can join her school's engineering society for women or join the local fru fru debutante group. She is not in any way discriminated against.
Just annoying as f*ck.
It totally is! You feel very awkward at work or in any social situation when your future is mentioned and people assume you will have a family. The only added thing is, at least for me but I think its common, people close to you assuming you are a lesbian and treating you accordingly. But that is also basically just about being GNC or for women that dont want relationships for whatever other reason
I adopted the ace label (but I don't really use it anymore because it's turned into insanity) because I've never had sexual attraction to anyone, ever. My hormones have been checked and they're fine. So I don't know what my deal is.
I use it; anything else feels like lying. But the online community seems to have gone off the rails (if it was ever on the rails? I've never felt an urge to join a community to talk about something I didn't experience so... But it was less nonsensical around 2010, I remember that much). In the past I used to see more people accusing asexuals of claiming to be oppressed than I saw asexuals actually claiming to be oppressed. Now there are resources demanding we educate ourselves on the struggles of the 'allosexual aromantic'. 🙃
I appreciate this. I basically consider myself asexual too but feel weird claiming it since the online world is weird. I don’t consider myself “queer” or part of the lbgt community cuz I’m not. We aren’t oppressed, just not interested.
Asexual online spaces are TRA spaces now. Idk if there ever were. I remember when the sexuality was "created" in the 2010s on tumblr it was a mess. It was the era of sapiosexual and when everyone started to describe themselves as "demi" and then make up hyper specific sexualities. Iirc MOGAI started around that time on tumblr and I feel asexuality was kind of what started it, then I would say it mutated to the "tucute" ideology
(kudos to people who understand half of the words I used lol. I honestly spend too much time online, not proud of that. Internet "history" interests me a lot.)
I dislike with a passion people who are "asexual" but alloromantic (or whatever tf the word is) or allosexual but romantic. Or "demi"-romantic/sexual. You either are this or you are not. Asexuality is just weird to explain outside of woke circles anyway. Kids out there trying to be special and cool by taking the label
I think asexual is a useful term but whenever I read contemporary explanations of what it means (which includes having sex as regularly as a non asexual couple), I don’t recognise them at all despite pretty much being asexual myself. The definitions seem to include everything but actual asexuality!
are you me? -i cannot stand how asexuality seems to include everyone but asexuals. I have literally seen "gray asexual" people explain that asexual have sex, because they are normal! I cannot even with those kids
Aromantic typically means a dude who only likes to fuck and hates relationships. That's only useful to men.
I've mostly seen it used by women so far personally. IMO it's kinda just a word used by women who aren't actively chasing a relationship or who have not found someone compatible with them yet. But I can totally see it being used by dudes like that
Just make it single by choice week or something. No need to invent new words
Hey, when the flying monkey's do arrive, how do I doot one? If the whole world is going to end up in the trash, I'd like to get a flying monkey out of the deal. 🙈🙉🙊
I'd also like to know how you go about declaring a week of something, and where the calender is kept so I can make an appointment on it.
Yeah, me, too.
What week should we declare?
I'm thinking about declaring "Crone Awareness Week."
I like Crone Awareness Week tho cuz the acronym is "CAW."
Easy to turn it into a whole movement with an image of a wizened old witch and a raven on her shoulder shrieking "Caw! Caw!" cuz everyone knows women are shrill squawkers.
Ahhh.
Ok, my original idea "was" better; I just hadn't thought it through!
Someone please make some art for this. :)
I was thinking keep it simple: crone week.
Better.
Please...please...please. Stop it. Just stop it.
You are not oppressed if you don't feel like fucking someone or getting into a relationship. You’re not and you know you’re not.
You know what you should do if you don't feel like fucking someone or getting into a relationship...don’t fuck someone or get into a relationship. That’s it. That’s all you have to do. Then you can go forth, get the fuck over yourself and get something called “perspective”.
This! And big deal if you haven’t, really. Is it so surprising if one never meets anyone one would want to have sex or a romantic relationship with? Really? Thinking you’re strange or worse, special, just because your life doesn’t follow a particular pattern isn’t defying anything.
Okay - having grown up with a 'hooked on phonics' style of reading and a tendency to read very quickly...
I swear I saw AROMATIC - and I thought what the hell now? Are we identifying as smells??!!!???
(I identify as lavender with a little hint of patchouli by the way)
My aromatic identity identity is chocolate cake.
😃
tbf that is an ongoing joke in the asexual "community"
That was my first reading of it, too. 😄
As I understand it, the term was invented so people under pressure of being sexual can label themselves so others will leave them alone. Awareness week is the opposite of leaving alone afaik
That might be the "nice" answer, but the correct answer is that LGBTQ advocacy groups want to control more and more people, and there's no shortage of people jumping at the chance to declare themselves victims of oppression. /barf
I get why a handful of people find the 'aromantic' label useful, even if it's been distorted beyond all meaning by now. There's no worthwhile purpose to an 'awareness week', obviously, and I think that functions more to entrench the narrative that the world is split into two groups: those who are in the know, and those who are 'unaware'. Making the week implies the populace needs awareness, and that this is an important problem. And picking something relatively obscure encourages people who might otherwise question things to think they are ignorant and doubt themselves. So while I don't know to what extent the effects are intentional, I think it functions as a way to tell people who haven't been indoctrinated to shut up, while looking like something friendlier. It's also porous enough to allow anyone to claim to be in the 'in' group if they want the power that comes with that.
“I’m incapable of falling in love” like ... big deal?
I'm not going to be too harsh on these people given that saying they're asexual or aromantic is probably a defense mechanism.
If I had to grow up in an era where choking, slapping and increasingly worse stuff like knife play were considered a normal part of sex, I'd probably decide I was asexual too.
True and it's almost always teen girls calling themselves asexual or greyace or demisexual.
What does aromantic mean, that one is incapable of love?
Isn't that just a fancy word for someone who clearly doesn't give a shit about anyone (or a fuckboi if they're male)?
I mean, yeah, people should maybe stop assuming everyone around them wants to hook up/get married/have kids as much as they want to themselves or think is "normal". Society places a high value on sex and romantic relationships and does try to pressure people into it. It's much like everyone expects other people to be straight by default. Everyone also expects other people to be on the lookout for someone to date and have sex with. It can't hurt to consider that while this is the norm, people who deviate from it still deserve respect and shouldn't be badgered with stuff like "you just haven't met the right person yet" or "let me set you up with one of my friends, you're going to love him/her" or "life is meaningless if you don't have kids!" or "I could never be in a relationship without sex, I would be so bored". It's none of your damn business, leave people alone. But yeah, we all know that it's not just about that, it's about genderwoo and woke virtue signaling and claiming oppression.
Ya know, I hate to go there but I'm gonna have to put this on Trump.
He turned damn near the entire U.S. population into blithering idiots.
Not buying it. The "blithering idiots" had to exist prior to his election in order to put him in office.
Trump might be a pimple on the butt of humanity, but he's the symptom, not the disease.
Uhhhhhh ... joke?
:)