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I am just listening to a podcast with Helen Joyce (who I love) and she’s just talking about the medical and surgical pathways children are put on when they are perceived to be gender non-conforming. The example she’s giving is Suzie Green of Mermaids who transited som aged 4.

This will ALWAYS chill me right to my core.

I remember pleading with my parents to let me a boy, I felt strongly that I was one. I played with boys toys and I liked boys clothes. I hated the “girly” toys my sisters played with and when they played dress up, I would dress as a boy while they were Disney princesses. My parents were extremely chill and told me I could play with whatever toys I wanted and wear whatever and it didn’t mean anything bad about me. I remember having sad conversations with my mum where I was embarrassed that no other girls liked the things I liked.

Turns out that was a phase I grew out of as I’m now a grown adult and very happy I’m a woman and very comfortable in my body.

Childhood memories are hazy but still there yet I cannot imagine the course of my life being altered by decisions I made and things I said back then. I also believed Hogwarts might be real and I low-key waited for a letter to arrive for me by owl inviting me to go to school there.

It chills me to my bones though to think what could have happened to me if I was born a few decades later and growing up now.

I am just listening to a podcast with Helen Joyce (who I love) and she’s just talking about the medical and surgical pathways children are put on when they are perceived to be gender non-conforming. The example she’s giving is Suzie Green of Mermaids who transited som aged 4. This will ALWAYS chill me right to my core. I remember pleading with my parents to let me a boy, I felt strongly that I was one. I played with boys toys and I liked boys clothes. I hated the “girly” toys my sisters played with and when they played dress up, I would dress as a boy while they were Disney princesses. My parents were extremely chill and told me I could play with whatever toys I wanted and wear whatever and it didn’t mean anything bad about me. I remember having sad conversations with my mum where I was embarrassed that no other girls liked the things I liked. Turns out that was a phase I grew out of as I’m now a grown adult and very happy I’m a woman and very comfortable in my body. Childhood memories are hazy but still there yet I cannot imagine the course of my life being altered by decisions I made and things I said back then. I also believed Hogwarts might be real and I low-key waited for a letter to arrive for me by owl inviting me to go to school there. It chills me to my bones though to think what could have happened to me if I was born a few decades later and growing up now.

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Very much so. I was an openly proud tomboy at a very young age, and in junior high many kids teased me for "looking like a guy". I would wear my hair short or slicked back, have never been over a B cup so clothing could easily hide anything if I wanted to, and was one of those thin androgenous looking types.

Growing up, I was seen as " one of the boys" as kids started splitting more into friends groups, just due to my interests aligning that way as well.

Less than 5 years ago, my psych was asking about my past "gender incongruence" and asked if I ever thought about transition. She was hinting/directing that some of my self esteem issues and the past might mean looking at trans related stuff, and right then and there I told her to stop that line of thought. Wtf

I was an openly proud tomboy at a very young age, and in junior high many kids teased me for "looking like a guy".

Yes! This reminds me of myself!

Less than 5 years ago, my psych was asking about my past "gender incongruence" and asked if I ever thought about transition.

Oh wow that is absolutely disgraceful 😠 I’m glad you shut her down! Imagine her doing that to someone young and impressionable who then internalises it as a solution!