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I’d say it’s a culmination of things; of women being presented as uninteresting, two dimensional stereotypes in film and media - we are frequently reduced to sexual objects or pretty decorations. Women aren’t real people. Young girls/women think “but I’m a real person, I’m interesting and imperfect and more than these bland, beautiful vessels” Male characters are complex, exciting, dynamic, imperfect (but still likeable!) ... of course young women relate more strongly to (male) characters with actual character.

Only beautiful (and filtered/edited) women are seen on the internet and on film. Many normal looking girls feel inadequate. If a girl doesn’t fit the narrow window of beauty norms then how can she be a woman?

The depravity of men. The unspoken trauma of getting your first period, growing breasts and hips...the unwanted attention, leering, groping and commentary from boys who used to be peers, not to mention older men.

Really, why would anyone want to be a girl? Look at how how women are treated, dismissed, degraded, dominated, disrespected, hated (for no real reason) ... of course, the reality is that we have no choice. These girls are just naive enough to think the rest of us are happy with our lot as second class citizens.

The trauma of having a female reproductive system, knowing that if you ever wanted children you'd have to sacrifice yourself and even risk your life, instead of having a nice, quick orgasm and be done with it.

The fact that the whole world was built for men by men, the male is the standard and the "other" is the female.

The realisation (either conscious or unconscious) that men - who hold all the power politically, socially, professionally, and privately - hate us. They just hate women and girls, and they either want to hurt/kill us, or they're simply okay with it. And there's no known reason for that, only hypothesis and the frustration that follows.

Virtually everything going wrong with the world is caused by men, but women are somehow the ones to blame and take the harshest punishments. When women do great things it's "people", when women do wrongs it's "women". When men do great things it's "men", when men do wrongs it's "people".

The acknowledgement of your own physical disadvantages, understanding that you are weaken than any average man and you can't run as fast, jump as high, punch as hard. Your body is alien and many abilities related to personal freedom are sacrificed in the name of reproduction, even if you don't want and never wanted children. Also grasping what it means to be the weaker and "othered" side, when your counterpart wants to hurt you and/or exploit you.

Having no class solidarity despite being the world's most victimised minority (as in disadvantaged social class), while our oppressors will defend eachother even when they don't personally know the perpetrator but they know the victim.

Being considered responsible for your family's wellbeing, the domestic chore unfair ratio, the wage gap, and all the rest that frankly we are all familiar with.

I had to learn how to accept and love being a woman, but it's something I have to work towards every day because the rest of the world is actively working against it.

I agree, and also, when it comes to dating, almost everything about hetero dating revolves around who's The Man and who's The Woman. That's probably contributing to the non-binary trend.

100%. Sex is seen as something men do to women.

Women get fucked/banged/shagged etc

Men “make love” to women, not with them.

The woman is passive, she has things done to her.

Hetero sex is not presented as equal. And hetero norms are imposed onto LGBs so that w/w get asked “which one of you is the man?” 😐

[–] winnidream 9 points Edited

If a girl doesn’t fit the narrow window of beauty norms then how can she be a woman?

Right. Our worth is based on how pretty we are. This was drilled into me from a very young age

It also happens during late adolescent pubertal development too. I honestly can’t say that first growing breasts or getting my period around 11/12 distressed me at all, but around 18 my breasts grew about 2 cup sizes larger due to birth control and probably genetics and I remember hysterically crying after hearing the new bra size during a bra fitting. I just felt so uncomfortable and like I was going to be newly gawked at because of it.