The whole "genital preference" thing is rape-y and controlling. It's not a preference. People have genital preferences the way lactose intolerant people prefer not to drink milk. It's not optional.

not a great metaphor, lactose intolerant people usually aren't repulsed by milk or chee se the way lesbians are repulsed by dick. some lactose intolerant folks quite love dairy, it just gives 'em a tummy ache, so...that CAN be optional, albeit a bad option 😅 haha