Rant Women's words as "literal violence"

YES. THIS.

I believe it's no accident that many of the strongest voices standing against women's erasure are domestic violence victims. Like J K Rowling for example. We know what this is. We recognize the red flags sooner than other women. Why? Because we've already seen it close up and personal.

When I hear a man describe women's WORDS as violence, I hear the echo of my former abuser. Of all the times he committed potentially lethal violence against me and my children. And all the times he told me that I was "making" him do it. That I was "making" him crazy.

My WORDS made him do it. My WORDS were so unforgivable that he was entitled to crush and humiliate me in order to shut me up. My WORDS were such a lethal threat to his fragile ego that he was justified in literal violence to terrify me into silence.

Anytime a man blames his violence on a woman's, he is telling us loud and clear what he really is:

AN ABUSER

And as Maya Angelou said: "When someone tells you who they are ... believe them!"

It's so ironic that for men on the left, women speaking out about trans issues is considered "literal violence" that not only warrants rpe/ dath threats and physical violence.

They claim that women speaking out about their own rights is what inspires men to inflict physical violence on trans identified males.

But talk to any right of center male pundit and they all say the same thing-- "why aren't women talking about this? Why are feminists not fighting against this??"

It's almost as if misogynistic men only pay attention to what women say when they can attack or condem them for it....

Men can't admit that words hurt them. They can't show they are sensitive or have feelings because that exposes them as weak to other men so it's WORDS ARE VIOLENCE. WOMEN ARE VIOLENT JUST LIKE MEN. A false equivalency.

Recently I was venting about a situation. Now, I would never be violent in a situation unless it was called for (self defense or some other circumstance) but a man who was listening told me I was "a very violent woman". No, I have been wronged and am very fed up of being treated like a punching bag. I am not the violent one, I am on the receiving end of men's BS. It's frustrating even speak up about protecting myself or using violence for defense, then I am the angry "violent" one - just for using words.

If your self worth depends on being able to control a woman you have to constantly work to maintain that control, and a woman who isn't under your control is perceived as an existential threat. Violent men have this in common with narcisists.

Yes, it is the height of hypocracy that "women's rights are not hate" is LITERAL GENOCIDAL VIOLENCE BY TERF FEMINAZIS, WE ALL ABOUT TO BE MURDERED!!!!! but "decapitate terfs" and "choke on my girldick cum dumpster terf" are just acceptable self defence.

Exactly. It’s all part of the pathetic attempt to “prove” women are just as violent as men, and hence dissimulate the endemic nature of male violence. They desperately want it to be true. They desperately want there to be some hidden mass grave of male victims of women, somewhere, all so they can protect their fragile egos. That’s how little they value any life, male or female.

This is such a great post. Thank you for sharing this insight.

Yep its he same old same old, and just like the man behind closed doors it has got to the point where words are not even needed for an excuse, people maybe scratching their heads now at what the hell JK said wrong originally, but now we are at the point that reading her name is a trigger, and she's given up being tactful in her speech as whats the point they have already damned her anyway.

this is exactly the same reason I hated Boris Johnson, its all just male pattern abuse in full public view.