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Here's the ranting prompt. https://imgur.com/fIr8XlV

Here's the rant: If I didn't peak by randomly watching Nikkie Tutorials 'coming out' video, then 'Elliot' Page's interview would have definitely peaked me.

I peaked because Nikkie said he always knew he was a woman because he always liked 'wearing pink, and dolls, and whatnot". Then I did some digging around the word terf and whoopsie a baby terf was born. Glad to have found you.

Anyways, this Eliot Page coming out thing... Here's what I got thrown at me in my youth " You drink from a glass like a man, you ride a bicycle like a man (???), you never want to wear high heels, why don't you let your hair grow, be more like a girl, you can't be a mechanic that's a man's job, why are you sitting like a man?, a woman with short hair??? are you sure you are a woman?, you only buy/wear pants... " to name a few.

The only time I 'wanted' to be a man was when I was about 4-5 years old and I wanted the convenience of peeing while standing up. That's it. Over the years I've never felt drawn to stereotypes of what it means to be a woman, and even though I was behaving unconventionally and even though everyone around me told me I'm not 'lady like", I stuck to it. I knew I was a woman, I can't exaggerate this one loud enough. I never gave into anything stereotypical of my sex, but even though I was wearing baggy clothes, even though I had 0 make up on I still experienced misogyny, I've experienced sexual assault when I was 18 while idly staring at my computer screen wearing a hoodie.

So, I just want to thank Ellen Page for 'opening' my eyes by telling me that I was a man all along. Freaking sellout.

Here's the ranting prompt. https://imgur.com/fIr8XlV Here's the rant: If I didn't peak by randomly watching Nikkie Tutorials 'coming out' video, then 'Elliot' Page's interview would have definitely peaked me. I peaked because Nikkie said he always knew he was a woman because he always liked 'wearing pink, and dolls, and whatnot". Then I did some digging around the word terf and whoopsie a baby terf was born. Glad to have found you. Anyways, this Eliot Page coming out thing... Here's what I got thrown at me in my youth " You drink from a glass like a man, you ride a bicycle like a man (???), you never want to wear high heels, why don't you let your hair grow, be more like a girl, you can't be a mechanic that's a man's job, why are you sitting like a man?, a woman with short hair??? are you sure you are a woman?, you only buy/wear pants... " to name a few. The only time I 'wanted' to be a man was when I was about 4-5 years old and I wanted the convenience of peeing while standing up. That's it. Over the years I've never felt drawn to stereotypes of what it means to be a woman, and even though I was behaving unconventionally and even though everyone around me told me I'm not 'lady like", I stuck to it. I knew I was a woman, I can't exaggerate this one loud enough. I never gave into anything stereotypical of my sex, but even though I was wearing baggy clothes, even though I had 0 make up on I still experienced misogyny, I've experienced sexual assault when I was 18 while idly staring at my computer screen wearing a hoodie. So, I just want to thank Ellen Page for 'opening' my eyes by telling me that I was a man all along. Freaking sellout.

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[–] DebraKadabra 20 points (+20|-0)

Y'know, I got annoyed enough getting asked if I was a lesbian growing up. When it was relatives, it wasn't so bad because my family are sweet people who were just ready to love me up and support me. And they didn't ask me, they asked my mom LOL. When classmates asked it was a pejorative, which made me feel bad for the girls who actually were lesbians.

I'm tired of this gendered shit. It has nothing to do with anything. I just liked boy stuff and caught on early that most of the girls' toys were "chore-themed." What the hell does that have to do with sexuality and whatever the fuck gender is?

So what would be the next step if I realized, well, I'm not comfortable as a girl, but now I have to work on MORE shit to be a boy in addition to collecting Hot Wheels? So I either have to work hard at suppressing the boy things or enhancing the boy things. Fucking stupid.

[–] ComplicatedSpirit 2 points (+2|-0) Edited

most of the girls' toys were "chore-themed."

Holy shit I don’t think I’ve ever quite really thought about this before. But you’re right.

How come boys don’t get toys like lawnmowers and rakes, to pretend to do yard work? They make kids’ rakes to do ACTUAL yard work, but not just “here’s a rake for practice for when you grow up and have a real yard”, like the little pots and pans and vacuums and baby dolls girls get.

The closest thing they get is little fake tool sets, maybe. But that’s nothing compared to the mass of fake cleaning sets, play kitchens, baby dolls with all sorts of functions that require care- like feeding and wetting and even just flat-out crying, fake shopping carts, etc.