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(This is just a bit of musing I should've typed out and edited instead of writing out like spoken word, but I figured I'd keep and post it anyway.)

There is no movement to trans women over 40-50. There's no big push to get us to explore our gender identity. No attempt to medicalize us out of fear of menopause (it would be very, very easy, you'd think, to talk women who are often being pressured into having hysterectomies ANYWAY to just go for it, be a man!). Not the way younger women and girls are being sold a lie over fear of puberty. Women over a certain age are abandoned in this regard.

We are and have always been expendable once we age, once society stopped valuing us as caregivers past our fertility (which wasn't all that long ago). We're just "Karens" now. No one has an issue wondering what the gender of women over a certain age is, we're undeniably women. Women with a snort of disgust. If all of us can change our sex, then of course women in this demographic can; no one urges us to. Very few of us ever toy with the idea.

Women over a certain age were raised to see sex and gender as one in the same, a binary; to this, the world responds by branding us as "TERF" and witch, Karen and bitch. Before we even speak; as if they know their tactics tend to fall flat with us. Only the "TERF" is new.

The only pressure is to accept, accept, accept and cheerlead everyone on. An across the board "don't be a Karen, you expendable wench!" That's our binary as we age. I wonder if this will change?

Women of a certain age are simply out of f*cks, and everyone knows it.

(This is just a bit of musing I should've typed out and edited instead of writing out like spoken word, but I figured I'd keep and post it anyway.) There is no movement to trans women over 40-50. There's no big push to get us to explore our gender identity. No attempt to medicalize us out of fear of menopause (it would be very, very easy, you'd think, to talk women who are often being pressured into having hysterectomies ANYWAY to just go for it, be a man!). Not the way younger women and girls are being sold a lie over fear of puberty. Women over a certain age are abandoned in this regard. We are and have always been expendable once we age, once society stopped valuing us as caregivers past our fertility (which wasn't all that long ago). We're just "Karens" now. No one has an issue wondering what the gender of women over a certain age is, we're undeniably women. Women with a snort of disgust. If all of us can change our sex, then of course women in this demographic can; no one urges us to. Very few of us ever toy with the idea. Women over a certain age were raised to see sex and gender as one in the same, a binary; to this, the world responds by branding us as "TERF" and witch, Karen and bitch. Before we even speak; as if they know their tactics tend to fall flat with us. Only the "TERF" is new. The only pressure is to accept, accept, accept and cheerlead everyone on. An across the board "don't be a Karen, you expendable wench!" That's our binary as we age. I wonder if this will change? Women of a certain age are simply out of f*cks, and everyone knows it.

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[–] Astraea1284 9 points (+9|-0)

That's a fascinating observation that I hadn't quite grasped.

A few days ago, there was a discussion under one of Karen Davis's YT videos about how we see so few middle-aged TIFs. I only know of two: one is a a lesbian singer (who Peachyoghurt did a video about). The second was a straight woman I knew tangentially online simply because she'd attacked a good friend of mine; my friend had posted a negative review of a historical novel the TIF's friend wrote. The TIF author took issue with my friend's objection to the book's characterisation of two complex men who loved each other into offensive gay stereotypes. She literally said my friend's objection to the use of homophobic caricatures was ... homophobic. She basically called everyone who didn't like her own novels - she was big on fetishising lesbians, though i think she wrote m/m romance as well - homophobic too. Ultimately, she transitioned at 60 and declared herself a gay man; she rewrote all her lesbian characters into trans men then retrospectively attacked negative reviewers for "transphobia". This was fiction set at a time when modern gender theory didn't exist! I never knew what her poor husband thought about this, though I gather they stayed together. She was a very strange, angry individual. This was about 8 years ago when I knew nothing about this issue beyond being "kind", so I dutifully referred to her as "him", even in my thoughts: I remember saying, "oh, okay then, good luck to him, but he's still an arsehole though" when my friend and I were talking about it.

She stuck in my mind though after all this time, because midlife transition for women is so rare. It didn't occur to me to link that with the overt campaigning to convert kids and adult men. All the TIFs being celebrated - including non-binary identifying women - are relatively young, at most in their early 30s.

Of course it's because women from their 40s onwards become invisible and are seen as sexless and because we stop giving a shit what the world thinks of us.

The TIF author took issue with my friend's objection to the book's characterization of two complex men who loved each other into offensive gay stereotypes. She literally said my friend's objection to the use of homophobic caricatures was ... homophobic.

That's because women don't want reality in gay characters. They want romanticized characters that act like women, but are men.