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My autocorrect doesn’t even offer the word matriarchy.

I’m still mad about that stupid “Cooking with Trans Women of Color,” mostly about the Colombian dish that stated families ate it under “matriarchal leadership.” In other words Mom telling everyone that dinner is ready.

Every culture in the world has mothers that tell you to sit down and eat your damn spaghetti. Don’t pee on my leg and tell me it’s raining.

This is a common pattern I see with woke people. They claim most other cultures are matriarchal. They claim their own are, or their families are.

I don’t care if Mom is head of the household. That’s not matriarchy. Note that it begins and ends with the family. The “leadership” evaporates when it comes to courts, government, means of production, and spirituality. They are few and far between, the higher up you go.

If Colombia were a matriarchy it wouldn’t have a high femicide rate. Or rape.

Stop humble-bragging that your single mom made all the decisions. She had to do all the work because men usually don’t think they have to pitch in. And her power diminishes every step she takes further from the house.

Patriarchy covers the planet. There are degrees of it but it’s everywhere. It’s atrocity denial to say that all other cultures are matriarchal Smurf villages. You are denying what women the world over go through. You are sugarcoating the overwhelming dominance of patriarchy.

My autocorrect doesn’t even offer the word matriarchy. I’m still mad about that stupid “Cooking with Trans Women of Color,” mostly about the Colombian dish that stated families ate it under “matriarchal leadership.” In other words Mom telling everyone that dinner is ready. Every culture in the world has mothers that tell you to sit down and eat your damn spaghetti. Don’t pee on my leg and tell me it’s raining. This is a common pattern I see with woke people. They claim most other cultures are matriarchal. They claim their own are, or their families are. I don’t care if Mom is head of the household. That’s not matriarchy. Note that it begins and ends with the family. The “leadership” evaporates when it comes to courts, government, means of production, and spirituality. They are few and far between, the higher up you go. If Colombia were a matriarchy it wouldn’t have a high femicide rate. Or rape. Stop humble-bragging that your single mom made all the decisions. She had to do all the work because men usually don’t think they have to pitch in. And her power diminishes every step she takes further from the house. Patriarchy covers the planet. There are degrees of it but it’s everywhere. It’s atrocity denial to say that all other cultures are matriarchal Smurf villages. You are denying what women the world over go through. You are sugarcoating the overwhelming dominance of patriarchy.

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[–] Alecto 35 points (+37|-2)

Here's the thing--if they can say matriarchy exists in places that aren't colonized by white people, then they can deduce misogyny is just a side effect of white supremacy, if it even exists at all. That means they focus on every other issue under the sun that affects men, but not the one that only affects women, because once they overthrow white supremacy, all of our problems will be solved. It isn't men who are the problem around the globe--it's white people.

[–] BlackCirce 40 points (+42|-2)

⬆️ why i don't bother with black nationalism and allying with black men on the issue of race. ill take my chances with women tyvm ⬆️ there are black men who say these exact sentences over and over ⬆️ like bruh what is stopping you from treating women like human beings today ? what does colonialism have to do with you? ⬆️ #stopcallingwomenhoeschallenge

[–] Alecto 22 points (+22|-0)

I rather liked your idea of female nationalism. Men will take any excuse to avoid confronting their own supremacy. It's why so much of male 'feminism' is somehow all about ensuring male sexual access to women.

[–] BeninBronze 18 points (+19|-1)

Yes, this is why so of my black sisters are divesting from black men. They want racial unity to fight white supremacy but that’s not possible when they keep treating women like sex objects in both black media and real life. But no, stating this fact is regarded as decisive 🙄

[–] proudcatlady 26 points (+28|-2)

This is so spot-on but you can’t say it or else you’re a racist. This also explains why “intersectional feminism” is either about white TIM or black men (many of whom treat black women like garbage, but they’re women, so who cares). I don’t get why feminism is the only movement that has to center everyone BUT women—oh wait, yes I do. It’s because it’s a women’s movement and women need to SHUT UP.

[–] Alecto 23 points (+23|-0)

It infuriates me to see women accused of bigotry for calling out sexism in minority communities, even if they're a member of those communities themselves. They're shamed into staying silent because you want to present a united front against the oppressor, don't you? You don't want to give outsiders fuel for their racism/xenophobia, do you? It's very abusive to the women in those communities.

[–] IronicWolf 15 points (+15|-0)

I’ve also seen it argued that people from traditionally oppressed groups don’t have to bother with any other social justice, environmental or other ethical issues. Somehow that (nonsense) argument never applies to women though.

[–] BluecatSarah 5 points (+5|-0)

I guess it’s because patriarchy is a system that extracts resources from women for the benefit of men. Even by calling it feminism.

[–] Owlchaser 6 points (+6|-0)

Lol. If white people were wiped out tomorrow, the goalposts would move the very next day.