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My autocorrect doesn’t even offer the word matriarchy.

I’m still mad about that stupid “Cooking with Trans Women of Color,” mostly about the Colombian dish that stated families ate it under “matriarchal leadership.” In other words Mom telling everyone that dinner is ready.

Every culture in the world has mothers that tell you to sit down and eat your damn spaghetti. Don’t pee on my leg and tell me it’s raining.

This is a common pattern I see with woke people. They claim most other cultures are matriarchal. They claim their own are, or their families are.

I don’t care if Mom is head of the household. That’s not matriarchy. Note that it begins and ends with the family. The “leadership” evaporates when it comes to courts, government, means of production, and spirituality. They are few and far between, the higher up you go.

If Colombia were a matriarchy it wouldn’t have a high femicide rate. Or rape.

Stop humble-bragging that your single mom made all the decisions. She had to do all the work because men usually don’t think they have to pitch in. And her power diminishes every step she takes further from the house.

Patriarchy covers the planet. There are degrees of it but it’s everywhere. It’s atrocity denial to say that all other cultures are matriarchal Smurf villages. You are denying what women the world over go through. You are sugarcoating the overwhelming dominance of patriarchy.

My autocorrect doesn’t even offer the word matriarchy. I’m still mad about that stupid “Cooking with Trans Women of Color,” mostly about the Colombian dish that stated families ate it under “matriarchal leadership.” In other words Mom telling everyone that dinner is ready. Every culture in the world has mothers that tell you to sit down and eat your damn spaghetti. Don’t pee on my leg and tell me it’s raining. This is a common pattern I see with woke people. They claim most other cultures are matriarchal. They claim their own are, or their families are. I don’t care if Mom is head of the household. That’s not matriarchy. Note that it begins and ends with the family. The “leadership” evaporates when it comes to courts, government, means of production, and spirituality. They are few and far between, the higher up you go. If Colombia were a matriarchy it wouldn’t have a high femicide rate. Or rape. Stop humble-bragging that your single mom made all the decisions. She had to do all the work because men usually don’t think they have to pitch in. And her power diminishes every step she takes further from the house. Patriarchy covers the planet. There are degrees of it but it’s everywhere. It’s atrocity denial to say that all other cultures are matriarchal Smurf villages. You are denying what women the world over go through. You are sugarcoating the overwhelming dominance of patriarchy.

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[–] A_Matriarch 17 points (+17|-0) Edited

As a black woman, it burns me up to hear black people say this goofy shit about the black community. They need to tell me HOW black women - who were also slaves and- under double domination of both white men and black men somehow up and erected themselves a whole matriarchal order where rule of law, economics, property, and marriage is decided by women. They think a bunch of poor single mothers being propped up on white men’s meager food stamps after their baby daddys abandon them is a MATRIARCHY!!! It makes me DIZZY as fuck!
The women are the ones holding down the fort because they have no choice! NOT because BW have come together - like they should - and decide that the entirety of cultural and social dynamics will revolve around woman leaders and woman centered priorities. It’s the exact opposite in the black community and they know it!!! The community is the most male identified, male coddling, fuck shit imaginable. They accuse it of being matriarchy purely to blame black women for the shambles the community is in, never to actually honor or dignify female leadership.

YES! I've seen so many people point to the black community to say "see? Matriarchy doesn't work." No, the black community has patriarchy like everybody else! And any problems in the community are not because of feminism of any sort. Conservatives have this strange notion that feminism has "destroyed the black family."

Where? At what point? "When they said men were unnecessary!!!" No, feminism has never been about that. We HAVE said that you're better off with no man than with a toxic man, so don't keep sacrificing yourself for a toxic man. If men don't like it, they can stop being toxic and abusive. And honestly, conservatives, do you disagree? Do you think a woman is better off with a toxic abuser than as a single woman?

The black community is not feminist, and not matriarchal. They look just like the rest of the world in that respect.

[–] A_Matriarch 4 points (+4|-0)

Exactly, in my black woman centered groups we call our community “blackistan” for a REASON! Ain’t no matriarchy here....