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Hello all. I just wanted to express my appreciation for this community and for you nasty TERF witches who I love so much.

I was a longtime lurker of r/GenderCritical while at the same time participating in a lot of "leftist" Facebook groups and discourse. I was the type of person who would join the "fuck TERFS" rallying cries, and let people know that their language was not "gender inclusive". I was the type to apologize for talking about my own female anatomy, I was happily silenced into submission by transwomen. I was always happy to accept trans women as women...but deep down it never felt true to my experience as a woman or to my beliefs.

There would be days where I would get tired of having my female spaces on the internet commandeered by transwomen. I started getting tired of not being able to talk about patriarchal ideas about sex without constantly getting reminded that "SOME MEN HAVE VAGINAS". I started getting irritated when real women in these groups making jokes about penises (many of them having been on the abusive end of someone's penis in their lifetime) were being told that "WOMEN CAN HAVE DICKS TOO, YOU CAN'T MAKE FUN OF DICKS". I started to feel indignant about cushioning transwomen's feelings when I had never seen a transwoman stick up for me, for MY bodily autonomy, defend ME against jokes where "stinky vaginas" were the punchline.

The more I got squeezed out of these female safe spaces by transwomen who policed how I spoke about my experiences as a woman, who called me transphobic for acknowledging that trans and cis women have different oppressive experiences (some trans-based, some sex-based), the more I started looking at r/GenderCritical. It became my space to de-stress, to regain my sanity, to validate those tiny inklings of "this can't be right" that I had choked down for so long in order to defend transwomen. Then one day I went to GenderCritical and it was banned. That peaked me.

The idea that women can't have sex-segregated spaces, the idea that trans women can simultaneously benefit from the patriarchy and then turn around and CENTER themselves in feminist discourse, the idea that I was NERVOUS to talk about my own experiences as a REAL woman to all the men in dresses in my Facebook groups hiding behind anime profile pictures, the idea that ANY image of a vulva or uterus or Venus symbol was exclusionary and that it was not ok to celebrate cis womanhood but it WAS ok to celebrate a transwoman's charicature of womanhood...it all became too much for me.

Once I found this community again I felt so validated, I no longer feel policed, I feel like my lived experiences as a woman are important. I have consumed all of the content that's been posted here in a matter of days. It's the most refreshed I have felt in a long time. I'm a proud TERF. I'm never letting a man make me question my womanhood ever again.

Hello all. I just wanted to express my appreciation for this community and for you nasty TERF witches who I love so much. I was a longtime lurker of r/GenderCritical while at the same time participating in a lot of "leftist" Facebook groups and discourse. I was the type of person who would join the "fuck TERFS" rallying cries, and let people know that their language was not "gender inclusive". I was the type to apologize for talking about my own female anatomy, I was happily silenced into submission by transwomen. I was always happy to accept trans women as women...but deep down it never felt true to my experience as a woman or to my beliefs. There would be days where I would get tired of having my female spaces on the internet commandeered by transwomen. I started getting tired of not being able to talk about patriarchal ideas about sex without constantly getting reminded that "SOME MEN HAVE VAGINAS". I started getting irritated when real women in these groups making jokes about penises (many of them having been on the abusive end of someone's penis in their lifetime) were being told that "WOMEN CAN HAVE DICKS TOO, YOU CAN'T MAKE FUN OF DICKS". I started to feel indignant about cushioning transwomen's feelings when I had never seen a transwoman stick up for me, for MY bodily autonomy, defend ME against jokes where "stinky vaginas" were the punchline. The more I got squeezed out of these female safe spaces by transwomen who policed how I spoke about my experiences as a woman, who called me transphobic for acknowledging that trans and cis women have different oppressive experiences (some trans-based, some sex-based), the more I started looking at r/GenderCritical. It became my space to de-stress, to regain my sanity, to validate those tiny inklings of "this can't be right" that I had choked down for so long in order to defend transwomen. Then one day I went to GenderCritical and it was banned. That peaked me. The idea that women can't have sex-segregated spaces, the idea that trans women can simultaneously benefit from the patriarchy and then turn around and CENTER themselves in feminist discourse, the idea that I was NERVOUS to talk about my own experiences as a REAL woman to all the men in dresses in my Facebook groups hiding behind anime profile pictures, the idea that ANY image of a vulva or uterus or Venus symbol was exclusionary and that it was not ok to celebrate cis womanhood but it WAS ok to celebrate a transwoman's charicature of womanhood...it all became too much for me. Once I found this community again I felt so validated, I no longer feel policed, I feel like my lived experiences as a woman are important. I have consumed all of the content that's been posted here in a matter of days. It's the most refreshed I have felt in a long time. I'm a proud TERF. I'm never letting a man make me question my womanhood ever again.

29 comments

[–] FFS 55 points (+55|-0)

Your words are music to my ears. The current situation can make you feel like you’re losing your mind (guess that’s the point behind the gas lighting). Welcome aboard!

[–] mitochondrialmatrix [OP] "uterus-haver" 39 points (+39|-0) Edited

Super disorienting! As if everything I had learned in my time on earth as a biological woman was just wrong. Every instinct, every instance of sex-based oppression, all the ogling of my pubescent body by weird men, the r-pe trauma. All of the work it took to reclaim my female body after multiple r-pes and an eating disorder... It was all being wiped away and invalidated because "cis women are more privileged". So frustrating and damaging. So glad to be here.

[–] FFS 25 points (+25|-0)

You are real. Your experiences matter. You are in the right place. Somehow all this needs to be sorted out. Everyone benefits with reality.

[–] Jack_the_Lass 24 points (+24|-0)

"cis privilege" is one of the most insidious and damaging lies they tell. not only does it not exist, it preys on women's fears and takes advantage of our good instincts. We fear being un-empathetic, our good instincts tell us to feel compassion. thus, "cis privilege" tells us to feel shame for having it, and tells us to blame ourselves that they don't.

[–] mitochondrialmatrix [OP] "uterus-haver" 14 points (+14|-0)

Completely agree and I don't think that trans issues would have gained as much momentum without using the feminist movement as a catchall. Women are much more empathetic and open-minded, and unfortunately socialized to acquiesce to the feelings and wants of others instead of their own. Transwomen are using the way that we are unfairly socialized as girls against us to infiltrate our spaces and make us question our experiences

It’s so true. The idea of cis privilege is absurd. We are discriminated against and targeted for harassment and violence exactly BECAUSE we are correctly assessed as being female. It recasts the source of our oppression as a privilege.

[–] llkit 21 points (+21|-0)

They can above shove cis- up their arses. Why in earth would I identify with the stereotypes assigned to my sex?

Welcome!

[–] questioningtw 16 points (+16|-0)

Welcome! I think a lot of us have very simular stories, and it is maddening that feminists can no longer talk about the things that affect them, thanks to TRAS acting like everything has to be about trans people.

[–] Avadavat 15 points (+15|-0)

Agree with you 100%. The fact that there are other women...somewhere...who get it, women with whom I can discuss the lunacy, the misogyny, the agressiveness, the destructive narcissism of the gender identity movement..keeps me sane.

Glad you're here!

[–] KBash 14 points (+14|-0)

Welcome! Check out my post in o/women about peak libfem- I am really curious to hear women’s peak libfem experiences, and if they overlap with peak trans!

Glad you found us! Start reading second wave radical feminist literature, you will never look back.

[–] NotEnoughPages 13 points (+13|-0)

Welcome!!! I strongly relate to this. I'm ashamed to say that I still struggle with being open about my gender-critical convictions, because I was just as wrapped up in trans activism and pro-trans discourse as you were. This has become my home.

[–] mitochondrialmatrix [OP] "uterus-haver" 9 points (+9|-0)

Yeah I'm definitely too scared to tell anyone else I know. Crazy how a viewpoint as obvious as "I think women and girls still deserve sex-segregated spaces as a matter of protection and consent" can get you labeled as a "literal Nazi". I started following a bunch of gender-critical leftist groups on FB because the normal leftist groups I was a part of were always centering trans discourse/issues you would think they were explicitly trans groups

Glad you peaked. Now that you see how they took advantage of you, you can help other women who are still trapped on the Trans Train.

[–] haruspex 13 points (+13|-0) Edited

Glad to hear that you found us over here on ovarit. I hope more and more women begin to break free from the trans cult.

[–] GelatinousRube 10 points (+10|-0)

Hey I'm nice! I'm guessing you are too. I would never call anyone who wants to protect girls and women a witch. 😉 Welcome.

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