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Hello all. I just wanted to express my appreciation for this community and for you nasty TERF witches who I love so much.

I was a longtime lurker of r/GenderCritical while at the same time participating in a lot of "leftist" Facebook groups and discourse. I was the type of person who would join the "fuck TERFS" rallying cries, and let people know that their language was not "gender inclusive". I was the type to apologize for talking about my own female anatomy, I was happily silenced into submission by transwomen. I was always happy to accept trans women as women...but deep down it never felt true to my experience as a woman or to my beliefs.

There would be days where I would get tired of having my female spaces on the internet commandeered by transwomen. I started getting tired of not being able to talk about patriarchal ideas about sex without constantly getting reminded that "SOME MEN HAVE VAGINAS". I started getting irritated when real women in these groups making jokes about penises (many of them having been on the abusive end of someone's penis in their lifetime) were being told that "WOMEN CAN HAVE DICKS TOO, YOU CAN'T MAKE FUN OF DICKS". I started to feel indignant about cushioning transwomen's feelings when I had never seen a transwoman stick up for me, for MY bodily autonomy, defend ME against jokes where "stinky vaginas" were the punchline.

The more I got squeezed out of these female safe spaces by transwomen who policed how I spoke about my experiences as a woman, who called me transphobic for acknowledging that trans and cis women have different oppressive experiences (some trans-based, some sex-based), the more I started looking at r/GenderCritical. It became my space to de-stress, to regain my sanity, to validate those tiny inklings of "this can't be right" that I had choked down for so long in order to defend transwomen. Then one day I went to GenderCritical and it was banned. That peaked me.

The idea that women can't have sex-segregated spaces, the idea that trans women can simultaneously benefit from the patriarchy and then turn around and CENTER themselves in feminist discourse, the idea that I was NERVOUS to talk about my own experiences as a REAL woman to all the men in dresses in my Facebook groups hiding behind anime profile pictures, the idea that ANY image of a vulva or uterus or Venus symbol was exclusionary and that it was not ok to celebrate cis womanhood but it WAS ok to celebrate a transwoman's charicature of womanhood...it all became too much for me.

Once I found this community again I felt so validated, I no longer feel policed, I feel like my lived experiences as a woman are important. I have consumed all of the content that's been posted here in a matter of days. It's the most refreshed I have felt in a long time. I'm a proud TERF. I'm never letting a man make me question my womanhood ever again.

Hello all. I just wanted to express my appreciation for this community and for you nasty TERF witches who I love so much. I was a longtime lurker of r/GenderCritical while at the same time participating in a lot of "leftist" Facebook groups and discourse. I was the type of person who would join the "fuck TERFS" rallying cries, and let people know that their language was not "gender inclusive". I was the type to apologize for talking about my own female anatomy, I was happily silenced into submission by transwomen. I was always happy to accept trans women as women...but deep down it never felt true to my experience as a woman or to my beliefs. There would be days where I would get tired of having my female spaces on the internet commandeered by transwomen. I started getting tired of not being able to talk about patriarchal ideas about sex without constantly getting reminded that "SOME MEN HAVE VAGINAS". I started getting irritated when real women in these groups making jokes about penises (many of them having been on the abusive end of someone's penis in their lifetime) were being told that "WOMEN CAN HAVE DICKS TOO, YOU CAN'T MAKE FUN OF DICKS". I started to feel indignant about cushioning transwomen's feelings when I had never seen a transwoman stick up for me, for MY bodily autonomy, defend ME against jokes where "stinky vaginas" were the punchline. The more I got squeezed out of these female safe spaces by transwomen who policed how I spoke about my experiences as a woman, who called me transphobic for acknowledging that trans and cis women have different oppressive experiences (some trans-based, some sex-based), the more I started looking at r/GenderCritical. It became my space to de-stress, to regain my sanity, to validate those tiny inklings of "this can't be right" that I had choked down for so long in order to defend transwomen. Then one day I went to GenderCritical and it was banned. That peaked me. The idea that women can't have sex-segregated spaces, the idea that trans women can simultaneously benefit from the patriarchy and then turn around and CENTER themselves in feminist discourse, the idea that I was NERVOUS to talk about my own experiences as a REAL woman to all the men in dresses in my Facebook groups hiding behind anime profile pictures, the idea that ANY image of a vulva or uterus or Venus symbol was exclusionary and that it was not ok to celebrate cis womanhood but it WAS ok to celebrate a transwoman's charicature of womanhood...it all became too much for me. Once I found this community again I felt so validated, I no longer feel policed, I feel like my lived experiences as a woman are important. I have consumed all of the content that's been posted here in a matter of days. It's the most refreshed I have felt in a long time. I'm a proud TERF. I'm never letting a man make me question my womanhood ever again.

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[–] mitochondrialmatrix [OP] 39 points (+39|-0) Edited

Super disorienting! As if everything I had learned in my time on earth as a biological woman was just wrong. Every instinct, every instance of sex-based oppression, all the ogling of my pubescent body by weird men, the r-pe trauma. All of the work it took to reclaim my female body after multiple r-pes and an eating disorder... It was all being wiped away and invalidated because "cis women are more privileged". So frustrating and damaging. So glad to be here.

[–] FFS 25 points (+25|-0)

You are real. Your experiences matter. You are in the right place. Somehow all this needs to be sorted out. Everyone benefits with reality.