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[–] Raea 56 points (+56|-0)

Is anyone else starting to feel strangled by the amount of narcissism going around in the world these days?

[–] lucretiamott forestgender 14 points (+14|-0)

Seeing this po-mo nonsense everywhere in the mainstream makes me want to scream.

[–] Naturemom 9 points (+9|-0) Edited

Newsfash: 99.99% (a statistical hunch) of gestational parents identify as mothers, but yeah, they don’t matter! Let’s totally change language and culture to cater to the very few mentally ill narcissists.

[–] I_am_so_over_it 2 points (+2|-0)

Because we know narcissists are satiated after their demands are met and they don't keep demanding more 🙄

[–] questioningtw 0 points (+0|-0)

How dare you! More and more women are thankfully acknowedling that they don't have to be women if they don't want to be! Only a total boomer thinks that pregnancy has anything at all to do with being a woman.

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[–] crodish 31 points (+31|-0) Edited

Me upon reading the title: "JUST. FUCK. OFF. NO ONE CARES."

Why do people like these want to be parents?!

[–] SpatOutTheKoolaid 23 points (+23|-0)

The same reason the run-of-the-mill narcissists have children---to have someone to control, to serve them, and to live vicariously through. Narcissists don't actually "parent" as a verb.

[–] BurnBooker 11 points (+11|-0) Edited

She admits to her son having the boyhood she was robbed of.

[–] [Deleted] 8 points (+8|-0)

yes the setup for a very unhealthy dynamic happening here

[–] FedUp12345 [OP] 13 points (+13|-0)

Yes, exactly. Especially since “non-binary gestational parenting” is so hard and triggering for them.

[–] pennygadget 9 points (+9|-0)

Why do people like these want to be parents?!

Children are a captive audience who, up to a certain age, have no choice but to believe everything their parents say. And narcissists love molding kids into Mini-Mes

[–] DiabolicalPinkBunny 👽💕🐇 3 points (+3|-0)

Narcissists also seem to love having someone who is of their DNA, like little clones that will continue beyond one lifetime.

[–] FedUp12345 [OP] 22 points (+22|-0) Edited

TLDR; TIF gets angry at seeing the words mother and maternal and wrote a book about how these words exclude and harm non-binary and trans people. She also expresses jealousy over her young son because he is a boy and she wishes she was raised as a boy too.

[–] crodish 24 points (+24|-0) Edited

That's transphobic, how did she know her son identifies as a boy?!?!!!111 did she ask for his PRONOUNS? WHat a fUcKiNg biGoT how dare she assume their gender based on genitals observed at birth!!11one he might grow up to be a transwoman!!1

[–] FedUp12345 [OP] 13 points (+13|-0)

This was going through my mind too! How does she know her child is a boy? Is it because sex is real, mayhaps? 😂.

[–] BurnBooker 10 points (+10|-0)

No, surely it's because he's made of slugs and snails and puppy dog tails.

[–] pennygadget 4 points (+4|-0)

How does she know her child is a boy? Is it because sex is real, mayhaps?

The kid reaches for the blue blankie instead of the pink one & a toy dinosaur over a doll. Thats how she knows the baby is a boy!! Don't you understand science!?

[–] worried19 1 points (+1|-0)

We should at least be grateful she's not pushing a trans identity on her kid. It could always be worse.

Totally healthy. 😐🙄

[–] FedUp12345 [OP] 7 points (+7|-0)

I would actually really love to read and analyze this book from a radical feminist perspective. But I also don’t want to spend any more money on gender woo. If my local library has it I might. I’m curious as to why she hated being raised as a girl. I have a feeling I know why— but I would like to know if my prediction is correct.

I fear for her son.

She will subconsciously, or even on purpose, make him feel bad about being a boy.

Imagine a TIM saying this about his daughter.

I’m curious as to why she hated being raised as a girl. I have a feeling I know why— but I would like to know if my prediction is correct.

Same old same old.

Either she was sexually abused/harassed by a male or she has internal misogyny (life would be better if I were just a man).

[–] DiabolicalPinkBunny 👽💕🐇 4 points (+4|-0)

Although I would never even suggest breaking the law, it might be worth it to look around on the big information train to see of you can find a totally not free pdf.

[–] I_am_so_over_it 2 points (+2|-0)

You're stronger than I am. There's no way I could read it without a burning rage.

[–] worried19 0 points (+0|-0)

I can appreciate that the author has dysphoria, but I hope the kids are not dragged into it.

There are actually three children, one girl and two boys, at least if their outfits are anything to go by.

https://www.krysmalcolmbelc.com/selected-works

[–] sun_strike 8 points (+8|-0)

Yet another TIF learns that 'identifying' as not a woman doesn't get her out of sexism

[–] Carthimundia 7 points (+7|-0)

"Where do transgender and non-binary parents fit, especially in a world that is determined to force them into a box labeled "mother?"

Something I will never get is why these people object so strenuously to fitting in fucking categories. Being a mother doesn't mean anything aside from you are a female parent. You don't have to act or behave in anyway! It's just the definition of the word! If you don't want to be a mother then don't have a child. Do they object to being called human? To being called 'drivers' if they drive a car? To being called workers? Why is there such a hissy fit about fitting into a definition?

"The problem with reading about the science of pregnancy is that I cannot help being angry at the words mother and maternal," Belc writes." Maybe you should go see a therapist and explore why you are so angry at the words mother. is it because you have internalised misogyny? Why can't you just let it go? Stop getting angry at stupid shit.

"His experience is far from universal, but nearly everyone can relate to the transformative experience of falling in love — with a person, with a child — and the ways that love can shape our identities."

Haha, and here's the thing. for all her huffing and puffing about being radically different..lady, I'm sorry, you have settled down into a traditional family structure and gestated and birthed children. This is as mainstream as it gets. You are a boring suburban woman, and there's nothing wrong with that!

[–] LunarMoose 6 points (+6|-0) Edited

THIS is the woman who wrote the NPR article:

Britni is a freelance writer whose work sits at the intersection of sports, gender, culture, and queerness. Their writing is a mix between reported journalism and creative nonfiction, and they teach writing classes at GrubStreet.

[–] worried19 0 points (+0|-0)

Are you sure?

https://www.krysmalcolmbelc.com

This appears to be the author, unless they go by two different names.

[–] LunarMoose 1 points (+1|-0)

of the NPR article (which is kind of worse. creative non-fiction journalist :(

The irony of all these movements - if you’re “CIS”, regardless of race or class - you’re more privileged then these poor oppressed NBs and Trans people.

Put them first ! Sacrifice your kids for the cause !

If you’re the Super duper oppressed (usually well off and white) NB - only think of you and demand the world do the same.

[–] pennygadget 5 points (+5|-0)

What do we do with someone who is parenting the child they gave birth to, but is not a mother at all?

We tell her to stop living in Fantasy Land and get over herself for the sake of her child. We also tell her that, if she cannot handle basic reality, she shouldn't have kids.

("The problem with reading about the science of pregnancy is that I cannot help being angry at the words mother and maternal," Belc writes).

"The problem with reading about the Civil Rights movement is having to read about so many damn Black people!!"

Belc suggests Anna change the word "mother" to "parent" on worksheets she is creating for a [lactation] class; she brushes him off, telling him not to "take everything so seriously."

LOL Even the TIFs own wife thinks she's a drama queen.

However, this begs the question, why does this nurse who knows better stay with this delusional narcissist and bring children into the relationship!?

I feel so bad for their kids. I hope the non-TIF wife wises up and takes the kids before the TIF puts them on the Jazz Jennings pathway

[–] Carrots90 5 points (+5|-0)

And I thought it was hard being a mom of a child struggling with a disability....

[–] no- 3 points (+3|-0) Edited

Tell us you're a narcissist without saying you're a narcissist.

What's the difference between a mother and a "gestational parent"? Is a mother a set of stereotypes that the gender special rejects? Would it be possible for a mother to also reject this set of stereotypes and still be a mother? If so, what would the difference be between the mother and the gender special?

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