Welcome New Members Peak Trans Reprise V: Tell your story here

I had just had a horrific miscarriage when Jenner pulled that famous “the hardest thing about being a woman is picking out something to wear” line.

Something inside me snapped.

No, you asshole, the hardest part about being a woman was the time I found out my baby had died weeks ago inside of me and I’d been walking around as a living tomb. The hardest part was finally, finally actually miscarrying and being in so much physical and emotional pain that all I could do was sob in the shower while burning water ran over me and life out of me.

How DARE this man compare picking out a dress to THAT?!

And I knew then, immediately, that every other woman could understand my pain instinctively. Even if she’d never been pregnant. Even if she’d never suffered a miscarriage. Women understand because we have such intimate knowledge of life and death that passes ONLY through us.

This man could never ever ever understand.

Then I found out about Stefonknee and the whole AGF/pedo aspect and became a full on TERF.

i didn't really peak in a sudden way. me becoming critical of the current state of the trans community happened gradually. i feel a lot of compassion towards trans people as someone who lived as trans for a long time. in fact, when i "peaked" i still actively wanted to transition and i kept living as a trans man. my story is a bit different from most people's, it was the way trans women treated trans men in online circles that disillusioned me. i met trans women who believed trans men lie about rape and i was seen as a "privileged straight man" who had no place talking about my life growing up as a girl and being abused by men.

My peak trans story came in stages. Before my peak, I was a TRA liberal feminist who vehemently defended trans rights, reproductive rights, pornography and sex work. I also made misogynistic jokes at my own expense. "I heard that covid doesn't affect objects, thank god I'm a woman." 🙄I wanted male approval. I wanted to "be one of the guys." Not in a way that I ever thought that I was trans, but simply in terms of their humor, porn, and internet culture. I called people who questioned men in women's bathrooms "creeps." Shouting "They just want to pee!" And so on. I cringe, cringe, cringe, when I look back on it.

Stage 1: I first learned about all these woke identities and sexualities such as demisexual, gender fluid, and poly sexual.

I tried my best to rationalize them in my mind and I was okay with it for now.

Stage 2: I discovered r/truelesbians and r/LGBdroptheT, I thought they were transphobic, but I was curious enough to stick around. I started questioning things I never questioned before and getting backlash from TRAs which made me even more open to the subreddits I once considered transphobic. I listened to radfem arguments that I would've never listened to before if they even questioned trans ideology in the slightest.

It was lesbian visibility day and I kept seeing posts on Twitter about non-binary lesbians and he/him lesbians. Anyone who questioned it being called transphobic and people saying "pronouns don't equal gender!" That just confused me even more. I tried to rationalize it. Lots of people were even linking this "explanation" for it which I read and it confused me even more.

I eventually came up with this solution in my mind: a lesbian is a self-identified woman attracted to other self-identified women and they use she/her pronouns. I tried to be sympathetic in the "pronouns don't equal gender" thing by thinking that they just aren't comfortable with she/her pronouns yet to which I suggested therapy in order to become more comfortable with their gender identity and to work towards using she/her pronouns. Keep in mind, this was all in my head and I don't think that I actually shared it with anyone, but I moved on and forgot about the whole thing.

Stage 3: r/truelesbians & r/LGBdroptheT get banned. I missed them. Later, I discovered r/BiologicalLesbians and it was such a sweet community. Unfortunately I saw that AHS had already started to go after it despite the subreddit not even mentioning trans topics at all. Hearing how they talked about a lesbian subreddit that didn't even mention trans topics being "transphobic" was truly my first peak into the insanity of TRAs. I tried leaving a nice message on the AHS post just saying that the sub was simply for biological lesbians to discuss topics that affect them and how trans women weren't excluded, however they probably wouldn't enjoy the sub much since it was about biological female experiences. I tried to explain that technically trans lesbians weren't biological lesbians. I also pointed out how there are trans lesbian only subs as well. But I got instantly downvoted with comments like "biology starts in the brain" & "having a sub directed at cis lesbians is inherently transphobic."

I couldn't believe this insanity. It was around this time that I had heard the term "TERF" enough times that I finally wanted to learn what it meant. So I did some research learning about radical feminism. I didn't agree at first, but slowly started agreeing more and more with it. But I still believed in 'real' trans people, I just thought the trans community was taking it too far and so we're radical feminists.

Stage 4: r/BiologicalLesbians was banned and I felt like I had lost my home. Then a former user of the sub mentioned Ovarit to me. I wasn't sure if I wanted to join a new website, but I decided to check it out. I decided to join and make an account. It wasn't super easy to use at first until I discovered how to set it up on mobile. I learned new terms like TIM, TIF, and GC. I was still a softy though. But I was noticing more and more, the cracks in the facade of 'trans rights' as time went on.

I used to be apart of a fandom and I saw a post claiming that a fictional character from it was trans. This was one of my first times showing GC views publicly. I said that there was actually proof that the character wasn't trans because when the character was being thought up, she was initially envisioned as a male before being changed to female before creation. People were relentless.

I also got ganged up on when I dared to mention that I thought a character from the show was heterosexual. This was the my little pony fandom and I now realize that they were all pornsick creeps and having someone call one of the female characters heterosexual would mess up their "lesbian fantasy."

I left the fandom and deleted my account after that. I still like MLP, but the fandom is nothing but pornsick TRA incels.

Stage 5: I spent more time on Ovarit and slowly began to acquire most of the GC feminist views. I still believed in real trans people and calling them by their correct pronouns however if they passed. People on here did not agree with me and I eventually decided to think about it more and I realized that pronouns aren't a choice, they are subconscious registry that we make in our minds when we see someone based on their secondary sex characteristics. So if I see someone walking by on that looks female, I'll use she/her pronouns because that's what I subconsciously registered them as. Now we're they actually female? Who cares? I'll probably never see them again. But if I discover that they were actually male, I would them proceed to use the correct he/him pronouns because I now know their sex. And that's where I've ended up on the pronoun thing.

I also went through a lot of different opinions on what is a transgender person vs gender dysphoria. I used to think a transgender person was the name for someone suffering from gender dysphoria, but I eventually learned that there are many motivations that might cause someone to identify that way including: fetishes, gender dysphoria, peer pressure, sex role stereotypes, etc. And regardless of the reason, I learned that gender is a social construct based on regressive, sexist stereotypes and it needs to be abolished. Including the concepts of transgenderism and cisgenderism.

I learned how TERF is either an incorrect way to refer to a radical feminists or a slur based on how it is used. Either way it's incorrect, wrong, and offensive and anyone who uses it is either incredibly ignorant or misogynistic.

I learned how homophobic the trans community was and how sexist the concept of "non-binary" was.

And now I'm here. I still learn new things everyday and I'm still a baby radfem so my beliefs are still changing and progressing, but I consider myself to have fully peaked out of the trans cult and thank god I did. I love you guys ❤️😘

I am another woman who finally peaked at the response to J.K. Rowling being reasonable, though I have an acquaintance who is is a TIM I've known for years and that probably delayed my peaking before because I couldn't understand why someone like him who is just doing his thing, not grooming or looming, has a partner they never had to push into accepting them, could be a problem to another adult. But then came the idea of the women who are traumatized by male bodies in their single sex spaces and I get that, though around men I've felt less vulnerable than most women except for when I was pushed into a failed weight loss surgery by a greedy surgeon and was thin and weak for years. Eventually I realized I was hungry and got my natural, larger body and strength back. (I know men my same size and weight are still stronger than me, bit I still feel less vulnerable.) But I always knew there was something off about private spaces, and for me it is not only the lack of female only spaces when it comes to bathrooms and changing rooms, but a lack of privacy in those spaces even from other women. That's where my trauma is, maybe surprisingly. Women are less likely to be attackers, but I was assulted by a girl as a young teen, and I don't get why we share changing rooms with anyone. We were forced to share naked spaces with other young women from middle school and in my high school if you refused to shower in the shared girls shower, your name was called out the next morning on the "stink list" as part of the morning announcements. Only girls were shamed this way, who knows if the boys showered ever. We didn't really have to get clean, we just had to get completely naked and visibly wet to get our name checked off so we wouldn't be shamed the next school morning. I know seperate showers and changing spaces cost more but requiring nudity in front of people you don't choose to be naked in front of or having to share a hospital room, asleep, unconscious, when you're barely dressed in those threadbare hospital gowns, even with another woman, is just wrong. Now that we've got obvious men that aren't even pretending (except to briefly claim they're women) into these spaces so they can see young naked girls and expose themselves to young and adult females it's even worse. I want all vulnerable spaces to be private. I'm an adult now and still hate the huge gaps in between the doors of bathroom stalls and the inability to wash a hand that might get bloody without standing in a line of sinks with others. I'll admit that is rare and it's better than if a man was there, but full privacy should still be standard. Then even my TIF acquaintance has less to worry about and everyone can dress without confirming to gender stereotypes to avoid getting harassed in bathrooms and such.

Definitely anyone with male advantages, even without male puberty, should not be in women's sports. Women's sports clothing should cover as much as men's uniforms. Anyone too young to get a tattoo should not be able to damage their bodies by delaying puberty or anything even more extreme (though even delaying puberty is extreme.)

Women's rights are being eroded. I have been lurking for a couple months and I am peaked, utterly. I still lean left on my other views which means it's difficult to agree with things like even a rare article in the Federalist, but here we are.

I am glad not to be trying to raise children in this environment, and am never having children, but I worry for others and their children.

I used to be a huge TRA and peaked earlier this year.

1. seeing the violent response to adichie simply for saying that trans women have different life experiences than women.

2. seeing 90% of my formerly lesbian friends transition to NB or trans men and go into crippling debt to get extensive surgeries to “affirm” their gender.

3. I used to run a book blog and I posted a review of a book by a TIF. I didn’t even give it a bad review, literally just a neutral review while saying that I loved the author’s last book and was excited for their next one. about an hour later, I was tagged in a rant post about how white cis women need to shut up and never give anything other than positive reviews to trans authors, and that the review I wrote was literal violence against this author (who definitely didn’t read my blog). bear in mind that this post was from a TIF who I thought was a good friend, who I had video chatted and been pen pals with, so it came absolutely out of nowhere. seeing the fact that trans authors are above criticism said explicitly was what solidified my peak.

4. starting a job with a company that talked about how much representation they had for women in the engineering department and realizing they were talking pretty much only about TIMs and a few TIFs. and then being forced to go to three trans employee panels in my first three months where these TIMs and TIFs complained that the company still didn’t bend over backwards enough for them.

5. seeing my conservative parents literally cut contact with me for a year after I was outed to them as bi, but be relieved and grateful that my GNC cousin came out as a trans boy because at least she wasn’t a lesbian.

just want to end this by I don’t wish trans identified people harm and still have friends and family that are trans identified. but I’ve seen firsthand as a young woman the social pressure and harms of this movement, and think it’s dangerous how no one is allowed to critique it without being met with waves of vitriol and threats of violence. I just hope the madness ends soon.

I peaked when I learned that the language around women’s health care was changing. Instead of ‘pregnant woman’, I’m hearing ‘pregnant bodies’.

It started it out very slowly…when the new letters were being added to the LGB acronym, I was like ‘okay, fine. You do you but this is a little suspect’. Then a person who I had been friends with was telling me that they were gender ‘non binary’ but calling themselves ‘transgender’, I called them out on that. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing.

Once I started seeing that ‘non binary’ was becoming a thing I was becoming a little frustrated. Now it had begun to cross a line. There were a lot of women ‘coming out’, and it almost seem like they were just tying to opt out of being seen as women. I almost looked at it as saying that it was a convoluted way of calling yourself a ‘Tom-boy’. What started to really piss me off is when men started doing the same thing, but how they would express it is by wearing some damn lipstick and foundation while having a bushy beard. It was as if they were trying to bastardize what womanhood is and what being a woman means.

When JK Rowling was attacked and denounced for literally trying to defend womanhood, I felt the threads of my patience begin to break and recoil. When the term ‘TERF’ was started to be thrown around, I tried so hard to ignore it but I had had enough. Then the TRAs started posting bodily harm messages all over social media and no one did a thing about it, my thread of patience broke. All I needed was a true justification to really become vocal about everything. Enter the ‘neutral language’.

The sacred sector of motherhood was being attacked by TRAs and everyone was letting it happen. I even read that there was a clinic in the UK that was going to start forcing their staff to refer to patients as ‘birthing bodies’. I was floored. The one thing that for years TRAs have fought society for, you know, not to reduce them to what was between their legs, they were doing to women without a second thought. I could not believe that terms like ‘menstruator’, ‘vagina haver’, ‘birthing body’, ‘chest feeding’, ‘gestational parent’, etc. we’re being accepted into the medical field, and now into mainstream society. Where the hell are the gender neutral terms for men? I haven’t seen them…so why are women made to suffer?

The point of where I peaked past the point of no return was the whole ‘uterine transplant’ thing. I couldn’t believe it. We finally found out what the real purpose was…the TRAs did this in order to dehumanize and objectify women so that we would only been seen as commodities to harvest from.

Yet there are new things that make me peak every single day, so until they stop, I won’t.

I have never thought that trans people are "really" of their opposite sex, I have always known that there are obvious differences and experiences, but I just believed that all of them were such a small minority of harmless dysforic people who just wanted to be left alone instead of be killed by 35 as I read and believed at that time. I didn't think of them much, my feminism was focused on women (domestic violence, work discrimination, double standards, ending prostitution were the themes I was interested in), but I thought: "well, women are victims of male violence, transwomen are victims of male violence because they dare betray the sacred masculinity, we have some issues in common that we can fight together".

This started to change when I began reading feminist blogs and pages from the Anglosphere, rather than just in my own language. The topic of trans started popping up more often, sometimes describing them as the most oppressed, sometimes debunking this claims (I read a variety of sources, not discriminating libfem from radfem as at the time I naively thought that if you call yourself a feminist, by definition you center women, but soon things started to appear off to me on some of those pages). Well long story short I reached the conclusion that some of the data I was reading in some pages were not corroborated by solid research, or any research at all, and I started doubting them. I discovered that not all trans people have surgery or are dysforic at all etc and I noticed that they were never concerned with real women issues (real women were concerned for their safety but the courtesy was not reciprocated, you know, like men use to do).

Finally I had my mini peaking when the controversy with JKR erupted, because I read all those slurs and threats and I just thought "well, apparently the pro trans movement have been taken over by MRAs". I thought that if there ever was a non violent movement to further the rights and interests of dysforic people, it was a real shame that it had apparently been colonised by classic regular men (probably young incels) with their classic old woman hatred jumping at the opportunity to be misogynistic while being praised as progressive. I started reading more on the topic, discovered how the word terf is used to silence women, the concept of the cotton ceiling that cemented in my mind that trans right activism was (or had become, I thought then) an MRA movement.

Then all changed in week. I had read about several women who had been deplatformed or banned by Twitter just for having opinions and then the Reddit ban came. The subreddits run by women were banned while men were allowed the same opinions with no consequences. And there I I thought (it might sound a bit of a conspiracy theory): it was never about trans rights, whatever opinions we have is totally irrelevant, it's just a concerted big plot to restore male power, those women are gaining too much liberties, they work, they study, after 'me too' they even think they should have the right to not been groped in the workplace. Let go back to happier times, when women didn't have the right to protect themselves and have opinions. I connected the trans discourse to all other attacks on women I was already well acquainted with before (the push to decriminalise pimping disguised as 'protecting prostitute women', the use of the PAS in family courts to punishment mothers who denounce their husband's violence etc.) and I understand now that real trans rights (combating male violence, end sexual exploitation, fund better research) are no concerns of the TRA movement, it is simply a big well and long thought after plan to erode women advancements and child safeguarding. And here I am.

Growing up as a gen z at around the age of 13-14 I was a tomboy that was also suffering from anorexia at the time. I hated wearing dresses , makeup etc then one day I joined tumblr which was teeming with trans ideology. I remember seeing thousands of posts of different sexualities and new genders that people seem to treat almost like Pokemon trading cards or top trumps. The most sinister memory of mine is seeing all these vague bulletpoint droplists of “signs” you may be trans, Now being anorexic that hated my body and being a tomboy, according to those droplists ,was enough to make me think I needed to transition, to the point where I was looking up prices for a binder! Luckily my dad stopped that train of thought before I actually was indoctrinated simply by stating the fact that you can’t change your biological sex . It’s scary how easily I was sucked into that ideology. Transition was being sold to young teens as this great thing that will fix all your problems , I saw loads of images of young girls binding and all the support they were getting from others looking back they were just love bombing these teens. Thankfully dodging the bullet of transition I first started to peak when they started to demand going into our public spaces like toilets , prisons, changing rooms etc because I knew it would be used by perverts to gain access to women and children, I knew from seeing the trans women posts on tumblr that they were into some really weird fetishes (nappy fetish/age play/furries/BDSM/non con) and secretly didn’t want those men in our spaces. I peaked some more when I was told to educate myself on trans women but all I found were even more porn where nearly all trans women had onlyfan accounts and vile misogyny painted pink with stupid words and phrases that just seemed to mock women (fish,skirt go spinny/bioholes/titty skittles) I’ve been on a continuous peak since they started to refer to real women as cis just so men can squeeze their large carcass under the umbrella term woman, making the word woman a catch all for anyone that likes pink , dresses and submission 🤮all these TiMs male pattern sexism was shining through the bubbly pastel pink veneer. The peaking has stayed almost constant this year with learning that autogynephiles fetishises the idea of womanhood And often has co morbid fetishes which rang eerily true with what I’ve seen on tumblr and later on Reddit where I saw TiMs talk non stop about their breasts sexually, getting boners while dressing themselves , talking about being incredibly horny on their “period” (sometimes horniness was their only period symptom) seeing public exposure images, gross amounts of pedophilic age play, pissing in their nappies, calling their straight relationships lesbian, calling their gay relationships straight,so many cock cages and weird dragon dildos, fetishising pregnancy and periods, mouthfeel , big clitty 🤮, chonky. I was bombarded with vomit inducing , balding, overweight , blue eyeshadow lazily smeared on eyelids,30 year old men who were built like Shrek with greasy stringy , poorly dyed hair and 5 o clock shadows and pig sty rooms posting their gross nudes of their cheese crusted dicks to trans/ lesbian subreddits and people praising them saying YAAAS QUEEN SLAY. Aimee Challenor ( need I say more) Also seeing the sheer amount of poor coping skills with their favourite mantra “ cIs WoMeN dO iT tOo!” With their “period” symptoms being cramps from explosive diarrhoea and horniness presumably from living out their autogynephilic fantasies, they shoved tampons up their bums to “simulate” a period, stole used pads and tampons from bins and roommates and public toilets , even going as far as drinking period blood to absorb the much coveted female hormones. A group of men showing pictures of their botched, necrotic inverted penises/ colons and having the audacity to call them vaginas telling each other comforting lies like “ tee-hee cis women’s vaginas all look different so yours can pass easily” or “Cis women’s vaginas smell bad too uWu” combined all that with the rapey view that lesbians HAVE to date them or else! Just to validate their womanhood ( cause nothing’s more validating than attracting a female homosexual) they also lie to men about their birth sex so that they’d sleep with them which has the bitter taste of rape by coercion to it . The evil transitioning of GNC children most of whom would end up growing out of it or turning out gay .The list only continues to grow, now at age 22 I’m fed up with the female erasure of spaces, sports and sexualities just for the comfort of a few men.

I was peaked about 7 years ago now, I've spoken before about how I'm involved in fandom spaces online and that definitely was a huge part of it. I spent most of my teen years watching all of the women around me start identifying as trans men or non binary/genderfluid/etc. I kept to spaces that were almost entirely dominated by women online but suddenly almost all of them were identifying as some form of Not A Woman and there's this weird pressure to conform to this or you'll be under suspicion of being a secret terf simply for... still calling yourself a woman? It truly is a social contagion, so many of my friends will be part of friend groups that are mostly trans/nb and then comes their own questioning of their identities because they don't like the implications of being called a woman, they want a flat chest, they're gnc, etc. It very quickly spirals into buying their own binder and in a lot of cases starting T and looking into top surgery. They're never allowed to question these things or change their mind because the initial love bombing is likely so convincing and they get nothing but praise every time they speak about gender-related things. I often end up drifting from these friendships because they become deeply insecure and anxious about their gender and over analyse every little thing, and it often becomes the only thing they talk about.

It used to be something I'd keep my head down about, it always felt off to me but I could mostly brush it off. And then I discovered the lesbian side of Tumblr wayyy before being a lesbian became something trendy that people want to appropriate, or any of this sapphic wlw type stuff started. At the time lesbian Tumblr was very rad-leaning and it helped me realise I was also a lesbian and not bisexual, but I ended up losing a lot of friends to having my eyes opened to how homophobic a lot of q*eer spaces are and daring to speak up about it. A lot of those people were trans/nb identified and would often make passive aggressive jabs towards lesbian friends about not liking penis. Again this was a year or two before this kind of discourse blew up, so you could push back against it a bit more, but it was still very alienating.

Then a lot of things basically happened at once... Bruce Jenner coming out and Leelah Alcorn's suicide were two huge events that led me to discover more and more radical feminist blogs. I remember spending days with dozens of blogs open in my browser and reading back hundreds and hundreds of pages. It all made so much sense, and I nervously introduced these blogs to my at the time girlfriend who also ended up being receptive.

It's been insane watching how much radical feminism has grown online since then. Back when I first discovered it, posts on social media by radfems would gain barely any traction because there just weren't that many of them. Now I see them gaining hundreds and even thousands of reblogs, likes, retweets, whatever on social media and there's a huge community of women who call themselves radfems or GC. It's seriously just been one huge snowball effect where every crazy thing TRA's do, another few hundred or thousand women peak or start questioning things. And I think the craziest part of it is it's all their own doing by enabling and protecting perverted, misogynistic men while trying to trample over women's and LGB rights. They're their own worst enemy and it's just going to collapse in on themselves someday.

I found the GC and TrollGC subreddits at roughly the same time, and remember feeling so confused, because Troll subreddits were usually the... idk, "sarcastic" ones? But the way trans/LGBT subreddits were talking about GC, it HAD to be the other way around with you guys. It HAD to.

... Except it wasn't. So then the misrepresentation of GC people started reflecting rather poorly on the trans community in my mind, and it was more or less a gradual peak from there.

... I also remember one guy on a trans subreddit talking about how he "realized he was a woman" because he related to female characters on TV and stuff. Which, WTF. Anyone who thinks you should need to be a woman to relate to women is A RAGING MISOGYNIST. WOMEN ARE HUMAN BEINGS. We can be related to for normal human being reasons. (Also, chances are those characters were written by men, for men, directed by men. So, really, not saying much.)

I dated a man for four years. He lacked empathy, was friendless, and emotionally abused me. He told me he got off to underage porn in high school (“couldn’t remember” how young), sexually abused his dog, and couldn’t have sex without some sort of BDSM. He liked to be pegged while pretending to be a woman, and once got off just from wearing a bra of bubbles in the bathtub. Sex was about him and his penis. I had never made love until I met my husband.

Two years after we broke up, he came out as trans. So brave. “Trans and pansexual” he said. And people loved it. They supported him without question. This man who fetishized being a woman for four years with me, and who clearly had not the faintest idea what being a woman really means. And he was now one of us to these handmaidens and TRAs.

Now he identifies as “they”. Clearly a confused and disturbed man doing whatever he can to feel special and access groups that would otherwise reject him.

I’m disgusted and horrified.