I am an older woman. I am so old that many younger people don't engage in topical conversations about current events with me for fear that I won't know what they are talking about. Apparently, once you hit a certain age you can barely keep up with the latest knitting patterns let alone follow twitterstorms around JK Rowling's transphobia.
I have discovered that, being old and therefore out of the loop, I can coax people into gently teaching me all about how girls can become boys now and how men who say they are really women should be welcomed into women's intimate spaces. They don't suspect for a minute that I am playing with them. I tilt my head slightly to one side, open my eyes wide and say "Oh, that is so interesting! You must tell me more."
I ask them question after question until the absurdity of their argument becomes so obvious that they begin to fidget while looking for some way to escape from the conversation. Sometimes their sentences trail off into silence and I might say, "Oh dear. They didn't really think that one out properly, did they pet?"
Once, when asking about the difference between a female penis and a plain old male one, I was tempted to ask if maybe they had a different mouthfeel but I chickened out.
It is all quite delicious and amuses me a great deal. You might think that this is just something to look forward to in your dotage but why not enjoy it now while you are young? If you pretend to have been busy with other things in the last year or so (not unbelievable, after all) with no clue about trans ideology, radical feminism, or GC arguments, I'm sure you could get people to explain the whole concept to you in detail. You could even innocently ask killer questions and, as long as you blink your eyes in bewilderment a couple of times while waiting for the answer, you should elicit gently worded responses without vitriol and venom.
If any of you decide to try your luck and channel your inner old lady please let me know how you go. I would have loved to have discovered this power of being seen as innocently ignorant earlier in life because it really does give me great joy.