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[–] hellamomzilla 48 points (+48|-0)

I am just going to say this -- from my experience, therapists do not deserve to be trusted with teens who might be transidentifying. At all. I also hate the commenter who said parents are cheerleaders. NOPE.

Parents are parents. And this shit is a cult and it's captured a large number of mental health professionals. They don't deserve to be trusted in this area AT ALL.

[–] legopants 25 points (+25|-0)

They really don't. Until people come to their sense and realize transitioning is not a solution to gender dysphoria, therapists can't be trusted with that. I knew a TiF who on her very first session with any therapist ever, said "I think I'm trans" and that's all the therapist focused on. Talking to her she would've seen her past sexual truama, emotionally abusive family, physically abusive father, etc... And that her trans ID and joining that community was just her form of escapism.

[–] pennygadget 4 points (+4|-0)

Agreed.

I stopped therapy because my therapist stopped a session dead in it's tracks to chide me for referring to TIMs as "men". Now I'm nervous to try therapy again because I fear EVERY therapist will do this. And I don't need a fucking political lecture when I'm in a vulnerable place and venting my deepest, darkest insecurities & fears to a stranger.

Therapists are absolutely captured by the trans cult. And the few who haven't swallowed the kool-aid mostly go along with it out of fear of losing their license if they question a trans identifying person and that person complains. I would not trust a therapist to deal with a kid expressing mild gender issues. They'll probably blow it up until the kid is convinced that all their problems are due to being trans (and that transition will magically solve everything).

And the idea of parents being a child's cheerleaders (ESPECIALLY for teens who are notorious for making bad choices) is insane! The parents who act like friends/cheerleaders tend to have the most messed up kids in the long run

[–] Miss_misandrist 24 points (+24|-0) Edited

There was a comment saying "self diagnosers are a plague on our community". Does that make anyone else uncomfortable referring to your mental illness as a community?

[–] ALesbian 4 points (+4|-0) Edited

I have an anxiety disorder and I agree that I don't feel like it makes me part of a community.

[–] Texture 2 points (+2|-0) Edited

Eh, people are allowed to find community in shared ailments, like PCOS. And if someone feels no connection to others with their medical condition that's fine too.

[–] Stealthygal 12 points (+12|-0)

This reminds me of what happens when largely or perfectly mentally healthy individuals browse a copy of the DSM. Or physically healthy individuals start reading medical journals.

It's really easy to see something new, find it fascinating and then start trying to find your place in it immediately.

I was also a depressed anxious bookish nerdy teen and the answers didn't come in one fell swoop. With apologies to A Clockwork Orange, all it was was that I was young.

[–] fizzygiglet 9 points (+9|-0)

Has anyone else been following the trend of people faking DID, autism, and Tourette’s on TikTok? It’s shockingly common among teens and young adults, and almost all of these people are trans identified or have an ‘alter’ who is supposedly a member of the opposite sex and dysphoric about it. As someone on the spectrum, there’s a lot I’d like to say about it, but for now, I’ll say that it really bothers me that even though social media/the press are starting to acknowledge this phenomenon and how messed up it is, no one is willing to take note of the glaring overlap between the trans community and people who fake serious and/or debilitating disorders. We can all admit that teenagers would self-diagnose themselves with a mental illness or neurological condition because of the influence of the Internet, and the attention, pity, and sense of community it gives them, but of course this would never happen with being trans. ROGD is quackery, right? Nevermind the fact that the teens who are suddenly claiming to have DID/Tourette’s/autism and teens who are suddenly identifying as trans are the same group of people.

[–] Spicymeatball 3 points (+3|-0)

I was literally just reading an article on this right before I saw your comment. Here, its about the social contagion of teens developing tics after watching TikTok. We're allowed to openly talk about this but not ROGD apparently.

[–] Fortissima 1 points (+1|-0)

My teenager really DOES have tics though and now there's pressure on her from people who think she is faking it. :/

At the beginning of the pandemic I noticed that a lot of kids and teens were cultishly following this DID YouTuber ‘DissociaDID’ and I immediately clocked it as bullshit, and it bothered me that she was censoring her comments section so that all there was were hundreds of kids claiming to have DID and feeding off of each other. When someone made a kiwi farms thread about her I followed it until they eventually ran her TIF partner off the internet for drawing CP and exposed her for being a malinger, but by then I was aware that there are a lot of other big ‘DID’ YouTubes. I’m not on tic tok but I’ve heard of people claiming to have Tourette’s after Billie Eilish said she has Tourette’s. It’s insane. At my university so many of the students that I met claim to have autism. It’s like anyone who’s not perfectly ‘normal’ (whatever that means) now has some kind of disorder, just like how anyone who doesn’t embody the most stereotypical presentation of femininity or masculinity is no longer a man or woman.

They’re definitely all the same group of kids and it’s very frightening. The internet seems to generate HPD in youth.

[–] fizzygiglet 1 points (+1|-0)

Oh, trust me, I know everything about the DissociaDID saga, and she is very much the blueprint for this TikTok trend. She’s the one who popularised the idea that DID=multiple spirit-beings who inhabit/possess your body and reside in ‘the inner world’ (basically, an elaborate structure, e.g. a castle, in your mind) when they’re not ‘fronting’ (a.k.a. in control of ‘the body’). There, alters live lives as full and authentic as any person in ‘the real world’. Some teenagers claim that, in the inner world, their alters date one another, have sex with one another, police each other (lol, I know), and give birth to new alters.

It’s all terribly metaphysical, but this is another gift they’ve inherited from the trans movement: identity is everything, and material reality is nothing. If you say you are sometimes a man, sometimes a woman; sometimes a fairy, and sometimes a demon; sometimes white/American, and sometimes black/Japanese; that is your identity, and it is sacrosanct. Whatever people report about their own minds is beyond questioning, and far more important than the way they are actually perceived. It is both the logical conclusion and most laughable consequence of queer theory.

[–] ALesbian 1 points (+1|-0) Edited

I've noticed that too. I think there's a few subreddits about the fake mental disorder phenomenon, like fakedisordercringe. I'm unfamiliar with them, though, so I don't know if they're any good.

[–] KissMyOvaries 5 points (+8|-3)

This woman is a damn shitty mother.

“I know my daughter is being horribly influenced by toxicity online but I won’t do the obvious and cut off this access. I need other solutions!”

Some people should never be parents. And she’s one of them.

[–] pennygadget 2 points (+2|-0)

I get that it's hard to restrict that stuff when kids are WAY more tech savvy than parents and the internet largely cannot be avoided (especially during COVID). But, if I were this mother, I'd be getting advice on how to keep the kid offline, block certain sites, etc. Not asking a bunch of Reddit basement dwellers how I can best be the Cool Mom.

[–] sblu 5 points (+5|-0)

TRAs: Make sure you get him onto puberty blockers immediately, and a double mastectomy as soon as possible, or you'll literally be responsible for his suicide. /s