I hope y'all like this title [and don't think its too pompous/overly broad] and please if you can give me some opinions on this essay. Edited for grammar.
I am currently re-watching the Handmaids Tale as well, so forgive me if I am getting fired up extra tonight....no tenolite te bastardes carborundorum.
It just occurred to me while arguing with another TRA abuser online (actually 2 at the same time with the same basic logical inabilities), something astoundingly clear about how misogynist the TRA view is, and it never hit me before so strongly.
In this particular instance, I had asked THE QUESTION: "what is the definition of a woman?" 5 times of one person, and the supreme gentlemen and defender of men with fetishes finally caved in a rage and merely capslocked that a woman is "MANY THINGS"
To my shock though however, they said something completely new to me right after this; they said "....but the definition of a woman is irrelevant to the discussion".
The disrespect and hubris of this particular statement really struck me.
Right then and there, I just had a vision of the reality of these men's perceptions that perfectly explained why he hated and resisted so much to define what a woman was.
I saw, in my minds eye, almost like a crayon drawing coming out of a mist and turning into a photograph, a woman in a niqab and burqa, like in the Taliban. A black, blank space. Barely an outline. No face. No personhood. A void. It was like she was calling to me; this is the same fight. We are all in the same fight together.
Then it hit me; this TRA, who was 99.99% male and might not have even been a TiM (it didn't appear so but its possible), doesn't not know what a woman is.
He hates me for asking because he HATES a woman defining that term for herself.
He hates not controlling it.
He hates its existence as anything more than a fantasy he can jerk off to and re-write to his hearts content whenever he wants. He wants to erase women. He wants us to remain a void-space, a blank canvas he can insert himself into and control any time he wants.
He doesn't have the same ultimate goal of the Taliban necessarily. But the vision I had was clear in perfectly explaining the unspoken motivations of such men. The don't think they are like the Taliban and they aren't in every way, but they have the same mentality.
The Taliban is the physical manifestation of patriarchy to its most extreme.
The Taliban erases women from physical space, making them a political non-entity, a literal visual void of identity...not heard and not seen, from which they merely insert themselves into whenever they want for whatever reasons they declare in a legalized state of total female rape and abuse and slavery.
How they are different from the west however, is they do so mostly primarily physically, in an extreme apartheid and political silencing.
They don't deny the biological reality of a woman as different from men, but they accomplish 90% of the total goal of patriarchy anyway by erasing the identity, consciousness, voice, reality, history and experience of women and subjugating it completely under the dictates of men. They make female persons a blank canvas, an object for complete male rape, butchery and slavery.
But the TRA agenda is not so different.
While most libs would gasp at this comparison because for obvious reasons most who have guzzled down the TRA agenda without thinking do NOT want to physically put women into burqas.
However, TRA agenda is the logical (as opposed to complete physical) manifestation of patriarchy to the most extreme place, where women are completely ERASED mentally, legally, and politically through propaganda, anti-science and language control.
It in fact achieves more than the Taliban ever could do, by erasing even the biological truth of being a female.
So while it may not represent an obvious physical erasure, it accomplishes the same and worse, through extreme Orwellian means, and thus, it is just as cultish if not moreso, than the Taliban. The full expression of it is the same oppressive patriarchal control however, is just currently in the dormant/fetal stages, at least at a large scale.
The TRA agenda is the philosophical and total erasure of women into a void, a blankness, an "anything and everything" that a man can insert himself into at any time for any reason, by any means. Mentally, physically, psychically.
Its the id of man to desire this it seems, the deepest, pre-verbal desire of probably at least half the male population. It merely lies dormant in most men. Some men may even be aware of it, but repress it because they do actually grow to see women as persons.
The only difference the TRA agenda has from extreme sexist cults like the Taliban, is it is insidious by design, making women think its harmless by "allowing" us to still express ourselves to a certain extent and have some certain rights.
Without a doubt though, it has all the hallmarks of a patriarchal cult, at the germ stage and not nearly codified like the Taliban is.
....But the same rape culture is underneath, the same want to silence women and make us into the clay for mens enjoyment.
The same deep down desire by a significant percentage of men is there, to so totally control the female sex, that women are not even allowed to speak, define, categorize and organize themselves.
That's why TRA abusers, particularly the men, get so so so so mad when you ask them to define what a woman is. They don't not know what a woman is, they hate that they can't erase it from history completely and make it into a void-space, a kind of gnostic mystery to be conquered endlessly by men in an endless rape fantasy, like how it physically is in Afghanistan right now.
The TRA's hate that they can't go back to the "way things were" and a woman is nothing more than an apparatus of male expression, which a male can twist and mold and define however he wants, to use to produce a lineage, or pick of a shelf like a packaged meat, cut and wrapped how he wants for temporary enjoyment, but otherwise no threat to him neither emotionally nor physically nor financially.
So when this TRA abuser male said to me that the definition of a woman is "irrelevant to the discussion" it was because it is exactly the heart of it and he hates that he can't destroy this definition completely.
He wants to make actual women irrelevant unless they serve him as a blank canvas for his ego and dick.
He hates that biological adult females exist with voices, needs, desires, dreams, wants and the ability to discriminate and label their oppression.
Why can't we just disappear and only show up when he can toy with us the TRA thinks? Impregnate us? Jerk off to us? Make us have his children? Stroke his ego?
Why can't we just shut up and go away unless we physically, visually, mentally, emotionally and economically benefit him?
We should only exist to be warped by men when men decide to mold us like clay. We aren't persons to them. We are a void-space they want the right to interfere with, penetrate, define, control and fetishize whenever they want, however they want and for any reason at all.
This is the universal patriarchy, and it is literally the exact same fight all women are fighting all over the world.
We cannot not stop naming it for what it is.
And the men hate us for it, but too bad. We're calling them out on their rape cults.
We have to. Our survival is at stake.