...... She wants to know what to do to make the TiM feel better...... She wants to know how to not upset the TiM when she asks him to stop raping her...... My god!

This thing where people are excusing TiMs and their abusive, manipulative behavior and writing it off as "self conscious" "poor baby" "meek little waif," needs to stop already. It just needs to stop now.

I'm physically ill from reading that post.

It's so dreadful. It's like when people pull up those old advice columns from the 1950s that are like "I'm not sure how often I should beat my wife, is twice a week enough?" I can't imagine how awful this era is going to look in retrospect.