Two weeks ago, I decided to talk to my high school guidance counsellor to fix something online. While she was checking her computer, I said “this is unrelated, but what are the staff here going to do about non-transitioned trans-students in the female restrooms?”
She asked me to clarify, so I repeated that I wanted to know whether or not male-appearing trans girls were allowed in the girls’ restroom. She asked if it was happening, so I said “I heard TIM1 saying she was in it, and a lot of girls mentioned seeing TIM2.”
She said “well… I get where you’re coming from for asking; but yes, they are allowed,” oh no. “I understand if you’re uncomfortable, so there’s a unisex bathroom that you can use instead.”
After that, she asked for my opinion, so I said “I think they’re girls trapped in male bodies, but I also think male-sexed people should go into the male bathrooms, regardless of gender. I mean, HRT-TIM is at least understandable, since she looks like a girl.”
She just said “ah, that way of thinking is getting less common these days…” in a mildly-judging tone, then went back to the topic I came there for. When I left, she reminded me where the unisex bathroom was and said it was probably best to go there, so the TIMs don't make me uncomfortable and I don't accidentally make them uncomfortable.
That answer was expected, but hearing it was so different than just simply knowing it's the case. :(
At least, a friend and I are going to the superintendent together over this - I know it’s unlikely anything will be done, but it’s still worth a try. Plus, she's very popular and I'm known for being a shy person; so if we get detentions for wasting their time/'bullying' the TIMs, people would be pissed.