I recently received a letter from a lactation consultant, asking for support to enable her to help women who are unable to pay for her services. I noticed that her letter, and her website, are carefully worded to avoid using the words "woman" and "mother". It's all "families" and "parents"--she still uses the word "breastfeeding" at least.
Here is the letter I wrote, which I wrote on the back of a photo of a TikTok-er who has had nullification surgery, leaving nothing but a straight scar across her chest. I was going to just let it go, toss her beg letter, but my Nigel encouraged me to speak out.
I have supported your work in the past but I can't, in good conscience, do it anymore. It was quite obvious to me that you have carefully avoided using the words "women" and "mother" from your website and your letter.
I have friends whose daughters decided they were trans, and/or non-binary, who donned binders, re-named themselves, took hormones. They were so convinced this would be the key to happiness, but they were wrong.
When did "woman" become a bad word? Why do so many girls and young women decide that it's a bad thing to be? It's as life affirming to deny one's body as it is to cut it, to starve it.
We--our society--are failing these girls. I can't support an organization or individual who is complicit to, or who promotes female erasure. This is what you are doing, despite your best intentions, and your kind heart.