A friend and I were talking about TIMs in women's bathrooms, and she mentioned that it probably wouldn't bother her if Blaire White or Rose of Dawn were in the bathroom with her. They're gay men, and wouldn't feel threatened. I explained to her why, if there was a young girl in the bathroom, I would insist out loud that they wait or go somewhere else.
And I want to make this VERY CLEAR- I don't think either would do anything to harm a child. Both Rose of Dawn and Blaire White seem very committed to protecting children and calling out predatory behavior on their platforms.
However, here's where I'm at. I don't want my daughters to be accustomed to males being in spaces where they are in some state of undress. Especially living in a major city where, just by the law of averages, it will happen more often if it's allowed.
Predators of children rely on soft boundaries, and every little bit helps. If my girls are used to men being in the same bathroom as they are, and have been raised not to view it as a threat, predators ARE aware of what factors put the odds in their favor.
Example- gender neutral single bathrooms are a magnet for hidden cameras. Predators can see every loose brick in a safe guard. They know when circumstances become even easier than they were before. There's "crime happens no matter what" and there's setting criminals up for success.
So when a man goes into a female bathroom, for any reason, I need my girls to have a knee jerk reaction that something is out of order. It's not just about that particular HSTS. It's about socializing girls to be more oblivious to their surroundings, and less able to recognize danger. Girls need a realistic understanding that there are plenty of male predators who would attack them if they had access. And every day that you don't get attacked are irrelevant on the day that you do.
No one would EVER suggest that, if you've seen bears in your back yard a million times and never been mauled, you can walk in deep bear country without bear spray.