What exactly is supposed to be so special about gender that you can identify into or out of it? I was thinking... how is it different than me saying "I don't identify as human" when it is an indisputable fact that I am human?
Why is gender set aside as this other category and the normal rules don't apply? Obviously, countless people have made the argument--how is transgender identification different that 'transracial' identification, which is panned for obvious reasons (ala Rachel Dolezal...)? But, one step further, how is it that gender gets this special designation not given to ANY OTHER characteristic, especially when it's impossible to prove or disprove?
I think this came up for me because I was mulling over Chase Strangio's tweet that said, "For those of us who are not women and can become pregnant..." Like... hold the phone. How is this flying? Females insisting they are not women by virtue of an inner feeling and that if we, the general public, don't 'validate' that inner feeling that they are not female then we are "pretending [they] don't exist or that [they] stop existing?" Why is this becoming a protected category?
I just... how is it different from me saying I don't identify as human and wanting to be given some sort of 'rights' for this identification? I know I'm preaching to the choir, but it just continues to baffle me that the trans movement stakes everything on sex denialism. Why? Why can't it be "For those of us who feel dysphoric about being of the female sex and can become pregnant, we ask that medical providers individualize our care to minimize the mental health impact of pregnancy on us?" That is a statement that is grounded in reality that still speaks to the personal experience that TiFs have of being dysphoric about their sex... thereby, they are not 'erased.'
What's to stop me from insisting "just because others see me as human, doesn't mean I am?" And if I did, how is this any different from the sex denialism/'gender' self-identification?
Edited to add: Also further questioning this all because I watched a youtube video of a non-binary female who had a double mastectomy to 'affirm' this non-binary identity who also had a video about using 'packers.' Just... wait what? How in the world is feeling 'non-binary' a reason to have your breasts surgically removed or to go around with a fake penis in your jeans?
Somebody pinch me.